An Open Letter To My Little

An Open Letter To My Little

She might not know this, but she is the little of my life.

When I started university, I never thought I would grow to become the woman I am today. Four years can do a lot to a person. Change them for the good or for the worse. Luckily, my sorority has changed me for the better.

I had a lot of ups and downs in this organization; no one said life would be easy, but it was all worth it. Society looks down upon sororities because they think we are all crazy women who are only looking for the "Mrs." degree. But trust me, that statement is not true. Being in a sorority made me grow more confident as a woman. This organization made me realize that I am more than a female, but a strong person who can conquer anything.

Without going through formal recruitment, I would have not met my Little sister. And that is a scary thought to handle.

A lot of people don’t know that we have a tradition placed within sororities that you are paired up with a younger sister to help guide them through the process and teach them the rules, standards, history and traditions of the sorority. The pairing process is referred to as Big and Little sisters, and sorority women take Big and Little very seriously.

Your little sister is more than your go-to buddy. It is someone that you look out for, worry and care about. You are obsessed with your Little even before you meet her. When planning for your Little, you buy all the cute sorority stuff, craft for her, imagine all the cool places and stuff you are going to do together. You and your Little share a bond that is unbreakable and indescribable.

I got my Little this past Fall, and she is the Little of my dreams. Honestly, without her, I would have fallen apart. She doesn’t realize it, but I worry so much about her and I want to shower her with love and cookies all the time! My little has been there with me in the worst of times and has shown me in many ways how to keep my head above water and not give up.

Dear Little,

This is hard to write, but I want to thank you for always being there for me without you knowing it. Our relationship is different because we have the same moral compass but we both have such diverse tastes in the small things. You are an incredible person that never ceases to amaze me. Little, you are such a hard worker, a dedicated sister, and a person with a golden heart. I thank my three lucky stars that you were placed in my life during the time that I needed you the most. You show me how to be a better person, even though I wish I was the mature one in the relationship (my love for weird animals doesn’t help). But I would like to think that you accept me for who I am. Even though you don’t realize it, you are strong. You have so much potential to grow and not let anyone stop you. I bet you have heard it a million times, but the sky is the limit. No, you put that limit on yourself and go far above the sky. I know I am a weird character, but I am honestly happy you and I are Big and Little. You challenge me more every day and keep me on my toes. Honestly, I get nervous around you and wonder if you judge my weird jokes and lack of memory. But you have helped me grow into a better sister and a better Big. My wish for you is that this life becomes all that you want it to be. I know my time here as a collegiate is coming to a close, but that doesn’t mean I won’t be here for you. Hold on tight, darling, because from here on out, we are going to have a good time.

Always here,

Your Big

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.

Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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They raise little girls to be insecure

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Day after day the big girl can't keep up

She's exhausted

Her soul feels worn

The big girl learns to grow hard

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