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An Open Letter To The Man I'm Not Waiting For

I'm not waiting — I'm living.

Kali Lenhoff
Apr 25, 2016
South Dakota State University
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An Open Letter To The Man I'm Not Waiting For
Personal Growth Counseling

Dear Mr. Right,

Dear Prince Charming,

Dear Future Husband,

Dear Soulmate,

Dear Whatever-Title-Makes-You-Feel-Warm-And-Fuzzy,

I am done. I am done waiting for you. I am done believing in fairytales. I am done believing that I need to find you.

You have to find me. You have to fight for me. You have to chase me.

And why is that, you ask?

Because someone who came before you taught me to trust him and to fight for him. Then he walked out. I'm not chasing you. I'm not chasing anyone anymore. I am not damaged. I am not angry. I am not blaming anyone. I have just finally gained enough patience to know what I am worth. And I am worth way more than just twiddling my thumbs until you come "rescue" me.

I am not waiting for you. I know what I am worth. I will be living my life, taking chances, traveling and partaking in every adventure I can. I am not a princess in a tower who needs to be saved.

Women as a basic demographic are not that hard to figure out. We want what you want. We just want you to respect us and, most importantly, to be there.

Go ahead and slay the dragon. Speaking for myself (and a large population of women out there), we want you to slay the dragons of distrust, of disappointment and of disagreement. Show up. Put some effort in. And be a supporter.

So while you are out there somewhere trying to be the hero and find me, just know that I am OK. I am out having fun and living my life. You are not the part of me that makes me whole. I am a whole person all on my own. I look forward to meeting you — truly, I do.

But you are not the only goal on my list. I am a complex woman. I plan on traveling. I plan on earning a master's degree and perhaps even a doctorate. I am having fun with my girlfriends and relishing in the feeling of being young. I am making plans — plans that involve only me. When you become a part of my life, then you can be involved in my plans; until then, I will do what is best for me.

When you do find me, I promise you that I will be there, that I will listen to you, and that I will respect you. However, each of those promises is a two-way street. Just like any relationship, I expect a relationship based on the reciprocity of trust, honesty and effort.

I am not waiting for you to start my life. You are only one small step in my future. And for my life plan, it does not matter much to me when you decide to enter my life. Because I am not waiting — I am living.

Sincerely,

Ms. Right

Princess Charming

Future Wife

Soulmate

Whatever-Title-Makes-Me-Feel-Warm-And-Fuzzy

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