Dear blank,
Breakups are hard, trust me I know. You sit in your bed wondering, "What could I have done differently?" Or "why wasn't I enough for said person?" Let's face it, as much as you loved that person, it just wasn't meant to be. Or if it is meant to be, then you guys will find each other again and live happily every after. There are a million things that both of you could have done differently in the relationship; however, it went the way it did for a reason. All the mistakes that led to the end of the relationship saved you from ending up with the wrong person. Don't reminisce about the relationship or kick yourself for all the dumb fights, but take this as the time to find out who you are.
People change either a little or a lot after a relationship, so don't worry about the "what ifs," but enjoy the exploration of the new you. Who knows what will happen next? This could lead you to the love of your life. As for the second question, you are always enough because you're absolutely amazing and incredibly strong even if you don't know it yet. Never think that you weren't enough for someone—unfortunately, the breakup just goes back to y'all not being right for each other. Think about it this way, there is someone out there right now looking for you, and you will be perfect for said person. I didn't say the relationship will be perfect, but you will be more than enough for that person. I wish I could say that it gets easier quickly, but it doesn't. I wish I could say that you'll find the love of your life right after, but I can't because no one knows when you'll meet them.
This breakup is preparing you for meeting the one. Think about the guy or girl who broke up with you and think about all the things you didn't like about them then think about all the things you did. Make a list from that of what you want your future spouse to be like. Continue to learn about yourself, so you'll be confident and secure for when you meet your future spouse. This is the time to prepare and go through the motions before settling down. It always takes a few tries for everything before you get it right, so these breakups are your trial and errors coming to an end and leading you into a happier future.
I want you to know that you always have someone to talk to when the breakup gets overwhelming. I want you to know that you're special and that there is someone out there who will love you with every bone in their body because that's exactly what you deserve. Never let someone take you for granted. Do what you have to do to feel OK again and never feel scared to reach out to someone. Forget your ex, go out and have fun, and just live life to the fullest because you will never get these days back.
Sincerely,
A girl going through a breakup and feeling good again
P.S. Do not text or reply to your ex!.
