I used to be like you. I used to think that if I could just have a boyfriend, I’d feel complete, accepted. But then I had one. I was happy for a while, but it eventually gets exhausting. So I’m not here to tell you all about my problems with relationships. This is for you.
Today you can turn on the radio and find that almost every single song is about a relationship or being attracted to someone. In the media, relationships, marriages, and divorces are constantly discussed and nitpicked. Rumors fly and details gets twisted and it becomes too much. There is pressure, and I know you feel it too. You feel that you’re apart of something great when you’re dating someone. You feel accepted and respected because now when your family asks, “So, do you have a boyfriend yet?” you can finally say yes. You now have something to gush over with your friends, and if they’re in relationships, you feel like you’re almost in a club. You’re more than that.
If you’re not in a relationship, embrace it. Don’t go searching. Have fun. Live. Let things happen when they’re supposed to. Believe me, I’ve been where you are and have learned the hard way. Just wait. If you are unsure about dating when the opportunity presents itself, don’t. Trust your instincts and be you. Enjoy your alone time because one day you’re gonna miss it. You’re gonna miss being able to just sit around and watch Netflix. You’re gonna miss the money that you could’ve been saving. You’re gonna miss how simple things used to be. Trust me.
So go out with your friends. Road trip somewhere. Go crazy if you want to. Talk about all of the cute boys in the bands or at the mall or your waiter at that one restaurant. Embrace it. Make sure that you take this time to really find yourself too. Find out who you are and who you want to be. Make a change if that’s what you need. Start something new. Take this time being single to really learn to love yourself and the skin you’re in, that’s when something amazing happens. You learn to be comfortable and confident in yourself. When that happens, you can be ready to be comfortable in a relationship, but the most amazing part of that is that when you love yourself, someone who loves you just as much comes along, and it won’t be tiring or stressful anymore. Bottom line: be single for as long as you can, and don’t rush into anything just for the sake of being in a relationship. You deserve the best, and what’s easy probably isn’t.
