To the Man My Best Friend Will Marry,
Congratulations, you have won the love of one of the most amazing human beings that presently walks the Earth. I guess that means you are a pretty special guy. However, there are some things you should know about my best friend before you promise to love her for the rest of her life.
She has been through more than her fair share of heartbreaks; she has been led on and used; and she has been lied to more times than it is possible to count. Despite those things, she had enough strength to continue looking for you and enough faith in fairy tales to believe that her happily-ever-after would one day come. Don't ever underestimate her ability to be your partner in life. She is there to support you just as you are there to support her. Should you ever decide that you are superior to her, she will be more than strong enough to show you just how wrong you are.
She has one of the largest, softest hearts of anyone I have ever met. She loves everyone she meets, and she will ignore any and all opinions that are presented to her on one of her new “friends.” When she ends up getting hurt by her new friend and figures out that she probably should have listened to everyone’s warnings, she will do the most frustrating thing: She will forgive them. Her heart has a way of only seeing the best parts of people and pushing out all of the rest. She puts others before herself always and will do whatever she can to help someone in need. As her husband, it will be your job to make sure she is taken care of too.
She is a dreamer. She has dreams that are larger than life, and her eyes can see things that are too far away for anyone else’s to focus on. There have been times when she told me of her dreams, and I responded by telling her that those dreams were too large for her. Over time, though, I have had the distinct pleasure of being proven wrong. I have seen those dreams become her reality, and I know that in time you will too. So do not make the same mistake that I did. Believe in her, and push her towards those goals. Do not be one more person that she has to prove wrong, because she will.
She is my best friend and I love her. I know that it is not in the same way you love her, but my love is just as important. There will be things that she will go through that you will not be able to understand, and there will be times when she will choose to call me and not you. When those times come, do not be upset with her for choosing to come to me instead of you. It does not mean that she loves you any less; there are just some things only a best friend can fix.
If you cannot love and cherish these parts of her, then you do not deserve her love. But if you see all of the wonderful things that I see in her and love her more because of those things, then she will love you more than you ever imagined was possible. She is a rare and beautiful person, and I am glad she has you in her life.
Sincerely,
Her First Other Half
