An Open Letter To My Friend Who Ignores Me
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An Open Letter To My Friend Who Ignores Me

When I text you, I'd very much appreciate a response at some point in this decade.

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An Open Letter To My Friend Who Ignores Me

Disclaimer: I am in no way perfect at responding. I am repeatedly told that typing “kk” is a necessary thing to do after reading the text. But after being on the receiving end, I realize that it’s definitely something I need to be more cognizant of.

Dear Friend,

You could be the best person in the world. Really, just the best, in every sense of the word. Everything anyone can ask for in a person. You could be smart, funny, organized, studious, a great conversationalist-- And the best part is, you’re super fun to hang out with. I can’t wait to spend time with you in person. You’re even fun to talk to on the phone and your texting capabilities are OMG LOL! There’s just one problem with our relationship. It’s not me, it’s you. I know for a fact that it’s you. I’ll tell you how I know.

You don't respond. Not to texts, not to emails, not to phone calls. When it comes to communication, you’re great. But when it comes to being in communication, you’re the absolute worst.

It just doesn't feel like it’s a healthy and balanced relationship when I’m the only one who seems to be putting in the effort. It’s not that I expect you to be on your phone 24/7 or even be at my constant beck and call. I understand that as nice as that would be, it’s unrealistic and equally unhealthy. But in today's day and age, when everyone’s cell phone is basically attached to them, to the point where they're taking it to the bathroom, I think that it’s a realistic expectation for you to respond to my text within a 24 hour period. And, no, it’s not a text that says, “What’s up? I’m bored.” It’s a text that says, “We on for tomorrow at 9 am?” I think a response to that is a fair request. And I don't want to have to send 100 texts in the vain hope that maybe at some point, you’ll deign to respond to at least one of them.

But don't worry, dear friend, it’s not just you and your unresponsiveness that irritates me. It’s everyone's, especially people who are supposed to be more professional. I was trying to set up an interview for something and a few days after I sent in my application I got an email requesting to set up an interview. Great. I responded with times that worked for me and with a few questions that were time-sensitive. Never got a response. Good. Love that. I love when I’m blatantly ignored. It’s possible that you haven’t checked your professional email in a couple of days that would be a totally legitimate for you to not respond to me. There’s just one problem with that excuse, its part of your job!

So yea, Friend, I guess you can tell me that you didn't have your phone with you. The only problem is that I know that you did. I know that because you have your WhatsApp “last seen” on. So just keep that in mind next time you decide to ignore me. I AM stalking you. I AM waiting on you to plan my day. I guess I shouldn’t. If you don't value my effort, why should I keep trying?

Honestly, it's because I really do value our friendship. I mean you're great. I guess what I’m asking is just that you maybe try to understand that it’s upsetting to me when you don't respond and I’d very much appreciate a response every now and again.

Yours truly,

Hey I’m tryin’ here

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