Dear "Hater(s),"

I know you are not a person that actually hates everyone, which is why I put quotes around your name. You definitely love a lot of people and have a lot of friends, and you are seen as a great person by those who see that side of you. I'm not calling you a bad person. In fact, I think you are a great person. The thing about people, however, is that they don't always get along with other people.

And that is how we are. On my side, I am the ignorant one, and I admit that. One day, I asked a mutual friend about us, and I was made clear you weren't a fan of me. You don't like me, and that is okay. I do not know why, and it upsets me, for I am a person that wants people to like me. I get anxiety if there is someone who makes it clear they are a "hater" toward me. I get confused because you may not like me but you like all my friends, and it makes me nervous that you might try and turn them against me.

It's stupid, I know. That's just how I feel. However, there is only one thing I want to say to you. I have many questions, but since you aren't so hot on me right now, I won't ask. I just wanted to say ..."thank you".

No really, I mean it. I truly do. I promise.

I honestly do not know what I did to make you not like me, but you have helped me understand that I am not everyone's cup of tea. I am not the funny goof all the time. To you, I may just be annoying. That actually helps me. You pointed out how I may not be perfect, and that is fine. I do not have to go out of my way to make people like me. If they like me, it will happen. Friends are natural. So are "haters."

Also, you gave me a backbone. It hurt to realize that you do not like me, but I found out that I really do not care. If you do not like me, then you do not understand me. I do not have to break my back to try to get your admiration. It only hurts me more as your opinion most likely will not change. You taught me how to love myself and the friends who also love me. If you do not like who I am, that is not my problem. Honestly, it is your problem, but that does not mean you have to try and make yourself like me. I do not want you paining yourself to get along with me like I would pain myself for your approval.

Thank you for showing me that we are all human. Sometimes you just do not care for someone. It happened with you to me. I have also realized that it has happened with me to someone else. I am a "hater" too, but it's okay. It has taught me to be cordial, it has taught me to play nice, it has taught me to stick up for myself and choose me instead of being dragged around by a person I do not care for.

Not liking someone just means that we are all different. I understand that there may be "haters" I do not know about. For those I do know, I understand you and your beliefs, and I thank you. You made me strong. You made me love myself more. You made me pick me. I wish you would've gotten to know me better, but that is not our fault. You cannot fight your gut reaction and I cannot fight mine. We must choose ourselves over others at times, and you "haters" have made me love my friends even more. You can love yourself too, knowing that your relationships are healthy and true. Everyone deserves that. You let me know what truth is, you broke me down and I found the strength to get up.

I respect you (I do not know how many there are — two ... 200). I do not consider myself a "hater" toward you because you helped me far too much. Just know that I am moving on with thanks in my heart, a smile on my face, and my friends by my side. I hope you do the same and surround yourself or selves with love too. You are good people and good friends. Do not forget that. Know that I forgive you and that I enjoyed your judgement. It made me more proud of the annoying goof I am.

Again I thank you. I am not angry. I am relieved.

Sincerely,

The girl you just don't really click with.