Dear almost-exes,

Let me start off this letter by saying that I'm not angry or upset with you. I never was. To be honest, I don't care about you — what you're up to, how things are going in your life, or what your plans are. Our "relationship" didn't matter...still doesn't. There's no reason for me to hold grudges because that would just be insanity. No one was perfect. You had the potential to hurt me, and I had the potential to hurt you. But thank goodness that didn't happen.

There are probably reasons why it didn't work out (you know, "everything happens for a reason" and all that nonsense). But honestly, I'm so glad it didn't. I'm too selfish right now to even consider putting someone else's feelings before mine and change my lifestyle to make room for another person. Right now, it's all about me, and it needs to stay that way for a while.

Now, I want to say thank you for several reasons.:

1. I expect less from people.

2. I don't open up as easily.

3. I don't let the small things bother me.

4. I have a better idea of what I want...but we all know that isn't saying much.

5. I enjoy being alone a lot more because I tried a relationship again.

6. I move past things even more quickly than I did before.

7. I can handle my emotional baggage a little bit better.

8. I fully understand the place I'm at in my life right now.

You helped me make this progress. I grew as a result of your indecision. So again, thank you.

However, I have some (potentially unwanted) advice for you: Don't commit to someone unless you're absolutely sure that's what you want. It's beneficial for everyone that way. Don't confuse yourself and hurt someone else's feelings in the process. Just be honest from the beginning, not just with her, but with yourself. It saves a lot of hurt, confusion, and time in the end.

Sincerely,

The girl you couldn't commit to