We Only Know Good Once It's Gone

It’s a sunny fall day, walking to class in an outfit that makes you the most confident you. It's smelling the crisp air on an October day, and knowing that from that point on, that it is going to be a good one.

It's doing well on a test you studied so hard for, and it's finding out you got the job you wanted. It's getting tipped extra, and finding out your best friend is in one of your classes on the first day. It's moments that we share with the people we love, and it's always having someone we know we want to bask in our glory with. It's having that someone to always be the happiest of happy for you, with you, and beside you. It's this person that you want standing there with you when you're going through your best of the bests, and the worst of your worsts. We all have one of those, but we all tend to take our one of those for granted from time to time.

The question always seems to be, what would happen if I didn't have my someone? Would losing them be earth shattering? Devastating? Or maybe even life changing? Or could you get past it? Would you find yourself balled up in your bed on a Friday night wishing, just wishing that each and every one of their thoughts was consumed by the thought of you too? Or would you be OK? Could you find someone else that has a heart just like yours, that seems to fit so effortlessly into the puzzle that you are? Or would you forever leave them with a gaping hole that will never be filled?

We only know good once it's gone. We only know what we had once it's walking away. We only understand how much they once cared for us, once you can no longer remember the memories the two of you had, with a warm tingly feeling inside. But instead, it's become a constant battle to get over the hurt, regret, and longing for that relationship that was once yours.

When you finally get that chance to stand still, completely still. When you get that chance to totally embrace the moment, whether it's happy or sad, and your world stops spinning, and your perspective is clear; stop and look at the person who is standing still and steady right beside you. Breathe in those moments with the people who are beside you. This is the person you want to keep around; this is a person you likely take for granted because they are always there. This is the person that cares so deeply about you. Do not make the mistake of letting them go.

We find reasons to believe that people always leave- we have a hard time distinguishing fact from fiction, and we doubt the intentions of others because of our past broken promises, hurt, and the pain from being forgotten. But who are we, to not allow someone who is holding on so tightly, to slip through our fingers like sand in an hourglass?

If you have a good one, don't wait to realize it once it's too late. Realize it now. Realize it while they're there, holding you through your heartache, or celebrating your small victories. It takes someone lucky to be loved by a heart like mine.

There are not many people in this small, small world. Our fingertips only have the ability to touch so many lives. So with that in mind, why would you choose for your touch to be one that inflicts pain, sadness, and maybe even feelings of not being enough? I ask you to choose happiness, contentment, and love in each and every one of your touches. Allow yourself to embrace these people that are here with you, because we only ever know good, once it's gone.