There are plenty of articles on "When You're the Last Single Friend" or "When Your Friends are Getting Engaged," but there's few articles about being the only friend that's engaged. Being the only one engaged in your friend group is also a little different! You love your girls to death and you know they love you, but some things have definitely changed since he slapped on a ring on that finger.
1. First of all, you seem to have lost the right to participate in some conversations.
Your friends say in frustration, "Everyone's getting engaged, pregnant or married!" And you can't say anything either even though you think it's so true. Your friends will say "I don't want a relationship right now.. Being single is so much better." You want to say you've been there or relate in some way! But everyone glares at you and shakes their heads. It's like because you have a ring on my finger you don't remember what it's like being single.
2. Someone says something against relationships/marriage and apologizes to you.
Suddenly it seems that any real talk about marriage and relationships isn't acceptable around you, like someone might break the illusion I have that I actually want to be engaged. This is one of the strangest and unexpected things to happen to me. A friend might say, "I don't want to get married young." And then glance my way and mumble some sort of condolences like "It's your life I guess." And you're like:
3. You're not included in boy talk with the girls anymore.
Although we're not really mad about not seeing all the creeps on Tinder, we're missing out on a lot because our girls don't care what we think when it comes to who's cute on Tinder or that hot the guy at the bar last night.
4. You're now officially taken, and you don't always want to party.
The relationship you've been in for a while? People take it seriously now. Telling someone you're taken at a bar? They actually leave you alone. And on top of it all, you get to wear a handpicked token of your partner's love everyday. But when your girls go out on the town, there's tension when you're not as enthusiastic. Being engaged, you're kind of over the bar/hook up scene. You don't want to dance and be noticed by other guys. They have singles stamina and you have couples coma. How I Met Your Mother says "singles stay on their feet for maneuverability" and "couples, exhausted by the sheer act of leaving the house, are obsessed with finding a place to sit down."
5. You get asked a million questions like, "When's the wedding?" and "Have you picked a venue?"
It's something you think about a lot, and it's crazy how much goes into a wedding. Getting engaged does not mean you already have it all figured out. So unless they want to hear all your thoughts so far on color scheme, wedding theme, and venues, they probably shouldn't get you started.
6. Now your Pinterest is overloaded with everything to do with weddings and engagements.
Before getting proposed to, you were just as annoyed with all the wedding and engagement pins on Pinterest as your friends are, but now that it's real for you. You're latching on to all the good ideas and searching for more. Now you're that friend and it's probably intervention time.
7. Everybody wants to see the ring.
This is probably one of your favorite parts of being engaged because you are absolutely enamored with your ring. Not only is it the most precious and beautiful pieces of jewelry you've ever had, you know how much time your fiancé put into picking it out.
In a group of friends, being the only one engaged is a little weird! A few things have changed and you lose some of the things you had with your friends before. People treat you a little different, but it is a huge step for you and your significant other and there's obviously some perks.
