No Means No And Don't Ask Me Again
Start writing a post
Politics and Activism

No Means No And Don't Ask Me Again

Thank you for calling me a whore.

No Means No And Don't Ask Me Again

Thank you. It's funny how just a couple of months ago I wouldn't have been able to even take a glance in your direction without feeling the aggravation toward you begin to boil under my skin and irrational anger wipe out any misconceived idea that I may have just moved past our falling out.

It started because I didn't reciprocate the same feelings for you. When I looked at you, I saw a friend, a brother I never had. And yet, regardless of how many times I explained that feelings are not created, they have to form on their own; I was still the bad guy, putting you in a non-existent friend zone.

That night, our fight started over me saying no to performing the sexual act you "asked for." As if my body was solely created for the purpose of pleasing you. As if because you asked "nicely" I was obligated to abide by you.

Then you're kind worded request turned into venom when you realized I said no.

"You're going to end up alone kid,… miserable and alone if you keep this up."

"You're just the girl people go to for a Friday night not a Saturday morning."

"You're just a little used up whore that everyone goes to, to get one off."

Now, with a year of college behind me, I can actually say I am grateful you turned so sour towards me after not getting your way. You've made me realize something needs to change. Personally, I feel sympathy towards you. You were raised in a society that told you that was okay. You were taught that a man is privileged in all regards, including a woman's body. That when asked, the only emotion a woman should feel is honored because a man wants her and she should do anything to make him happy.

You've taught me that my future son will be raised to respect a woman's body. That he is not God, and he does not have rights to how or what she does with it. My future daughter will be taught that she has the right to turn down any man who she feels does not deserve her. That she is in control of her body and no one else.

You taught me that a woman's body is her power and that these issues are still here in our everyday lives not just a page in the history books. You made me realize that women are still fighting a battle and I'm joining the war.

So thank you.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.

Falling For Fall

Super Cute Home Decor and Food Ideas for the Autumn Season.

Jamie Cahoon

I don't know about you but Autumn is my favorite season of the year. The leaves are falling, the air is crisp and tops of the mountains begin to be sprinkled with snow. Being as I'm not Haloween's biggest fan, I love to decorate my home with super cute fall decorations. I have found 11 of the cutest DIY decor items that are both inexpensive and adorable. Ballin' on a college kids budget makes for fun craft nights instead of buying the items at a ridiculous mass produced price.

Keep Reading... Show less

Slavery Was NOT Abolished

Jeevti from Pakistan would like to tell you so herself.


Unfortunately, at this time of year, we tend to overlook how incredibly blessed we are. We live in a free world, where we should not have to fear being penalized for our gender, sexual orientation, beliefs, or values. This is a fact we take for granted; in many other countries, simply being born female makes you an immediate target.

Keep Reading... Show less
Melisa Im

My Ethnicity

Hispanic is not a race... it’s an ethnicity. The term Hispanic describes a group of people whose common thread is language and/or culture. I’m a Hispanic woman born in Argentina to Korean parents. I self-identify as Hispanic/Latina and my personal experiences can’t be summarized by the color of my skin or the languages on my tongue. That is because every single person in the universe has a unique experience. Whether someone labels me as Korean or Argentine or American, that will never change my experiences as a Spanish speaker, immigrant, child of divorced parents, Californian, college graduate (Go Bears!), omnivore, writer, or any other label I choose for myself.

Keep Reading... Show less

When In Nashville

Here's some things you could do.

Kaitlyn Wells

I have had the opportunity to visit so many places in my lifetime, and recently one of those places was Nashville, Tennessee. There is so much to do and see in Nashville but here are some of my favorites that I would highly recommend.

Keep Reading... Show less
Your Work Week As Told By Michael Scott And Stanley Hudson

"The Office" is basically the best American TV show created in the past 15 years (you can fight me on this). And through all its hilarity and cringe-worthy "that would never happen in real life" moments, the show really does have a lot of relatable themes, as can be seen by the little compilation I put together of Michael Scott and Stanley Hudson.

Keep Reading... Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments