Do you remember the first time you found out he lied to you? Let me guess, it was about where he was at or who he was with. And don't play the card: "He's never lied to me." Because we all know, that at some point or another, everyone lies. It's inevitable. But let's be honest for a minute, do you want to be with someone who felt the need to lie to you about what he is doing when you're not around? Consider these five points before you submit yourself into a lying relationship.
1. Once you forgive the first lie, he will lie again.
Think about it, if you give in to the first lie, he knows you forgive him every single time. You don't have to punish him like a puppy, or glare at him every time he walks in the room, but if you want to make the relationship work, you'll find a way to let him know the lie is not acceptable.
2. Acting like it never happened, makes him believe you really don't remember it.
This is so important. If you never bring it up ever again, he thinks it's not important to your relationship. You don't have to be one of those awful girlfriends that brings up the past every single day or every time you fight, but don't let him just get away with a lie. Especially when it is something on your mind and bothering you.
3. When he says he is sorry for lying, don't believe him.
If he was sorry for lying, he wouldn't have lied. The second he got caught, he knew he was stuck. He was faced with either the chance to tell the truth or tell a lie. Let’s be real, we as females normally already know the truth or the answer to what we’re asking, so when he lies, he knows he is really going to be in deep $h!t. Yet, he willingly chose to lie. Every lie is a choice.
4. After he apologizes, do NOT say "It's okay," or "It's fine."
This is very similar to #2; you are accepting lying as a part of your relationship when you use these two phrases. You are saying, “It’s okay that you lied, because you’ve done it before. And now, I know you will do it again because I told you it is okay.” You have to think about it in terms of a four year old. “Tommy, you shouldn’t play in the toilet, but it’s okay.” The only message that is sending is that it will be fine the next time.
5. There is someone out there who will treat you better.
I know you probably think this is the only guy for you, no one will ever understand you the way he does, he completes you, you can’t live without him. Well ladies, that is purely BOLOGNA! There are so, so may men out there in the world that will treat you better than someone who lies to you. Sure this guy might have been everything you wanted at one point or another, but prince charming doesn’t lie to his princess in any fairytale. You can’t expect the happy ending you want If you hold yourself to something lower than a princess.
Next time you’re contemplating your relationship, and wondering how many times he has lied to you, the answer is probably way more than what you think. But do not think for a second that a liar is what you deserve. Remember your worth when he comes home with a mouth full of lies, and imagine a life with the real man you deserve.
