It’s easy to think that you have to be friends with everyone you meet but that isn’t true and it took me a while to realize that.
I was confused with the idea of being nice to everyone because I thought I had too. This idea was embedded in my head that I was supposed to be nice and be friends with everyone I met but that isn’t the case and I learned that when the gesture wasn’t reciprocated.
I continued to be nice to many of the people but it occurred to me that it wasn’t worth it to be nice to be people who were supposed to be my friends. I understood that I didn’t have to be friends with everyone if they weren’t treating me right.
It’s important that you surround yourself with people who respect and value the same things you do or else you don’t deserve to spend your time with those people. Being friends with everyone isn’t important if it means sacrificing your happiness.
It isn’t going to be easy but it is possible, I promise. You can’t be everyone’s friend and it isn’t your fault.
Sometimes you have to take a step and realize that you grow out of some friendships. When I entered college I noticed everyone is so quick to make friends without ever taking the time to notice if the people they are calling “friends” are the people they want to surround themselves with.
College is a difficult time. We are expected to have the time of our lives, while mastering a degree, and making a lifelong friends. Lifelong friends is a scary term for me because personally I have never had much luck in the friend department. I am a very mature person and for me that has affected me heavily throughout my life because keeping friends around hasn’t been easy. A lot of the people I hang out I tend to loose patience with because I can’t surround myself with the problems and issues that they find so important. I tend to grow out of the things we once enjoyed or things they are currently focused on. This is one of the many reasons I realized it wasn’t worth being everyone’s friend if it was going to cost my happiness.
If you aren’t be treated the way you want to be treated then it is up to you to do something about that relationship you are in. Most times, we treat others how we would like to be treated. I know I treat friends the way I would like to be treated and if I don’t get the same amount of respect back then that friendship most likely isn’t worth being kept around.
It took me a while and it is still take taking me time to understand it doesn’t matter how many friends you have it is the quality of the friends you have that matters.
