Growing up, I cried at everything. I mean, I still cry at everything; it’s part of who I am. People always told me, “You are so sensitive!” or “Stop being so sensitive!” I started viewing this as a curse, a weakness. However, I learned over time that being sensitive is not something I should ever feel ashamed of, but is something to be proud of.
When did being sensitive to others and the emotions of others become something so awful, so shameful? When did we start to view compassion as a flaw, a horrible idea that led to fear or embarrassment? Yeah, maybe I cry with extreme emotions and always have tissues on hand, but so what? Why should I dislike that part of me?
Being overly sensitive has helped me realize the beauty in everything around me. I cry at a sunset, or food, or music, or good news. Why? Because there are some amazing things in this world, created beautifully to bring us happiness. So why not cry a bit? Crying is not a bad thing! So let the waterworks flow. Let the saltwater clear your face and show your emotions!
Being a crier has more pros than most people realize. So, instead of discuss all the reasons I might cry, let’s go over the great skills that come from being the crier of your friend group.
First, people can rely on you for a good reaction. With any amazing news or awful story, tears are bound to be shed.
Second, you always have tissues ready. You never know when you might lose it, so in case someone else decides to let the tears flow (or has a cold, bloody nose, or insane allergies) you are prepared. People rely on you. No one likes a runny nose, right?
Third, you are pro at crying without screwing up your makeup. This. Is. Key. Being a crier means mastering the art of subtle crying. I myself am a blotchy crier when I full-on sob, but my almost daily occurrences of crying have led to a lack of notice from others. My makeup stays in place and my face stays clear. I mean, say what you want, but I think crying while maintaining on point eyeliner is incredible.
Fourth, you can cry on demand. Whenever you need to get out of a sticky situation (getting a ticket, cutting in life, getting the last piece of pizza) whip out some tears and you will be golden. I mean, yeah, sometimes it is awkward when you start crying over the news of a new JK Rowling book, but I think this skill I worth it.
Fifth, you learn to be compassionate. Peers, strangers, family, and friends have judged you yourself so often, and you know what that feels like. You know what it feels like to be looked at like a freak, so you learn to not want that on anyone else. You are compassionate to the hobbies, interests, and concerns of others since yours are often disregarded as insignificant or dumb.
Sixth, along with being compassionate, you know how to love. I mean, yes, there are several emotions in a crier, but we are great at loving those around us.
Never feel ashamed of your random spurts of tears or for your sensitivity. You own the emotions you have, because trust me they are a strength. #CriersForLife
