Growing up, I was always told by my parents, friends and family that I'm pretty.
Sometimes I did feel like I was pretty, some days I didn't hate what I saw in the mirror. My awkward teeth, big pores on my chin and my weird shaped butt. Some days, I liked what I saw. Other days, not so much.
I previously wrote about what it was like not being the pretty girl in high school, but what happens if that same feeling runs into your twenties?
I moved out four years ago, and I was trying to figure out who I was, and lets be real, at twenty-two, I still don't have it all together. I thought maybe being in a different place, not every single guy was going to see me as the bro-female friend.
I struggle with my appearance, some days are better than others. Some days, I feel like I've lost a little weight because my jeans look a little bit better on than they did last week. Some days, I feel like my teeth don't look AS weird, it just depends on the lighting.
I'm here to tell you that even though I too struggle with my own personal flaws that I see, that these things don't matter.
Like in the real world, it doesn't really matter if you were the pretty girl in high school. Your future SO isn't going to care about that. That person is going to care about what kind of person you are and your personality, not what all the dudes thought about you when you were seventeen. They're going to want to know what kind of major you had in college and your life goals and dreams. Not everything is about looks, and I know in a society where it seems we are in a whirlwind of being a certain weight, height, perfect, straight white teeth, and that all of that matters to get a guy.
First off, not every female is trying to look good for someone else. Maybe, just a crazy thought, she's trying to look good FOR HERSELF.
Second of all, that is just ridiculously unrealistic. It's no secret that for decades society musters up all these unrealistic practicalities that "everyone needs" to follow.
Coming from the person who struggles with this too, in reality, this doesn't really matter. What matters is what type of person you are.
I like who I am today, and sometimes some self love is just what you need. Work on the person you want to be.
