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Greek Life Wasn’t for Me, And That's Okay

A GEED's anecdote to rush as recruitment swings right around the corner.


It's August baby, and you know what that means, right?

College Greek Recruitment starts about one week from today.

And guess who's standing loud and proud as a campus independent? This girl right here.

I can't express how confused I get when people exclaim to me, "You look like you're in a sorority!"

What does that mean exactly? Is there really a 'look' to being a member of a Greek organization?

The answer quintessentially is yes, but I do not see myself as the mold of a typical sorority girl. I'm as close to a sorority girl as Little Miss Sunshine is to a typical pageant star. I swear, I'm loud and somewhat obnoxious, and I like doing things on my own terms.

Now as a junior in college, I have a lot of friends that went Greek in both fraternities and sororities, and it works for those people. They thoroughly enjoy it. No judgment at all, they found something they love and have time for. However, recruitment isn't always for everyone and I want to make that extremely apparent for those of my readers who feel a slight pressure to go through it because 'everyone else is.'

I'll elaborate.

I attended Catholic school for eight years of my education, from middle school through high school. This period of my life was hindered by an extreme pressure to behave according to the standards of the archdiocese's rules and regulations. Of course, this meant wearing no makeup to school, not having any public social media accounts, frequent drug testing including hair tests, and a very strict enforcement of the Catholic dress code.

As I transitioned into college life at Florida State University, I realized the immense amount of freedom that I finally possessed. I pondered how desperately I needed this change in order to better express and understand myself as a human being. I could finally assert my style, post whatever I wanted (within my own moral limits), and act how I wanted to without fear of punishment.

My parents weren't down to pay for the thousands of dollars-worth of dues each semester and that was okay, I could've saved up money to pay for a sorority.

From my point of view, why would I? Yes, sometimes I think about the "what if's" if I participated in the recruitment process. "Would I have met more people?" "Would I have actually liked the sorority I was assigned to?" "Should I have just given it a try?"

I've been weighed down by the pressure to fit in pretty much my entire life. External authoritative forces desired to sculpt me into a cookie-cutter modest young lady deemed "normal"--- to their standards. I dreaded experiencing the same constraints my Catholic school imposed on me during my adult life. I was horrified with a sorority's power to control girls' social media, image upkeep, dress code when going out, and the overall image of who they were outside of the sorority. I view myself as a eccentric, outspoken maverick with no desire to now have restraint put upon me in college. As a free-spirited person with a plethora of interests and communication skills, I just didn't think joining the sorority would have truly influenced me. In order for me to truly get to know others in this new town we were in, I didn't need Greek letters to achieve genuine relationships.

I don't regret my decision to not rush. I'm not trying to discourage anyone, live up that "college experience," whatever that is to you. I just felt that I could meet the same amount of people without having to pay exorbitant amounts of money each semester. I utilized college to make up lost time with figuring out myself as a person: what do I really enjoy, what are my interests, where do I see my life going, what's going to fulfill me in this new adult life of mine?

I thought I had my whole life planned out before I even stepped foot onto campus. I thought I knew who I was with my preset biochemistry major and goals of attending pharmacy school. I have evolved into so much more in these past two years. With help from my advisor, I discovered my deep passion to communicate with others and present my rhetorical practice to them. This fulfills me. I have never been more content with myself and who I am in this very moment. I was able to meet friends through mutual acquaintances, nights out, clubs I've joined, and other social scenarios not involving Greek Life. I was able to save my money to put toward's my dream apartment, and not be financially staggered with sorority dues.

The edgy, quirky, weird girl that I am didn't want to have to impress anyone, other than my own self. Whenever I see a pretty girl on campus with no Greek affiliation, I think that independence makes her that much cooler.

Moral of the story, don't just go through recruitment because everyone is. Weigh out your own values, finances, passions, time and desires for your college life and see if it meshes with the person YOU want to become.

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20 Fun Facts To Use When Introducing Yourself

As we embark on the semester, we are put on the spot in order to share interesting details about ourselves. This article discloses possible fun facts to tell others!

After experiencing my first week of classes, I have learned that every student needs a handy-dandy list of fun facts about themselves to tell other people. Many professors use the first couple of classes to learn about their students, so you may need to think about who you are and how you want to introduce yourself to your professor and classmates. We all have that one go-to interesting fact about ourselves, but sometimes you just have to mix it up!

1. My favorite hobby is...

What do you do in your free time? Personally, I love to stay active! I am a competitive Latin dancer and enjoy teaching and taking Zumba classes, going to the gym, and hiking.

2. I love...

Is there something, someone, or somewhere that you love? What makes your heart ache? What do you miss when it's gone? I can say that I love my friends because I feel my most confident when I'm surrounded by those who love and support me.

3. I look up to...

Is there someone you adore? Who mesmerizes you? Who do you wish to learn from? After watching "A Ballerina's Tale," I discovered Misty Copeland. In 2015 she became the first African American ballet dancer to become the Female Principal Dancer at American Ballet Theatre. Her passion, grace, and strength continuously motivate me to better myself as an athlete and an individual.

4. This art speaks to me because...

Coco Chanel said, "In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different." This encourages me to always follow my heart no matter what. I will never follow society's standards and norms because they do not define me. Chanel's saying definitely influences my character and lifestyle.

5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

When you make others laugh they want to spend time and make memories with you! Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. You will come off as down to earth, easy-going, and loyal.

6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

I can go on and on about my brother, who is 10 years older than I. We have opposite personalities and despite the age gap, we're quite close.

7. My pet(s) are my life because...

Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

8. I'm afraid of...

Your personality can be revealed by your likes and dislikes, including the things that you fear. I am terrified of change and the unknown, hence, the future is an anxiety-inducing topic to discuss for me.

9. I am the way I am because...

What have you gone through in life that has shaped you into who you are today? Remember to be open minded and allow yourself to open up to your peers. You may be surprised by how others respond and/or what others have endured as well.

10. The most unusual item that can be found in your dorm...

This is a fun fact about yourself that can easily liven up an awkward conversation. Think about your quirks and differences! One item I have in my dorm is my teddy bear, Peter, whom I like to joke is my boyfriend.

11. My dream job is...

In college, "What's your major?" is a widespread question. Nonetheless, skip the boring statement of "I'm majoring in..." and go in depth on what your dream job is (hopefully your major factors in to this dream of yours).

12. My hidden talents are...

Angelina Jolie is a knife thrower. Kendall Jenner can produce bird noises. Amanda Seyfried can crochet and knit. Is there anything special you can do? Some people have rare and unique talents, maybe you can think of some hidden talents of your own!

13. My guilty pleasure is...

I will say it a million times: don't be shy when introducing yourself to new people! I'll start by divulging my guilty pleasure: Youtube's family vlogging channel, "OKBaby"!

Check them out:

14. Some activities on my bucket list are...

This is an easy way to grab people's attention and find others with similar desires as you. Be an adventurer! Go out of your comfort zone!

15. Talk about your best friend...

How would your best friend describe you? What do you love to do with your best friend?

16. Talk about an accomplishment of yours...

You are incredible and have achieved so much! Reveal something that you are proud of — show off a little!

17. This one time at my job...

Bosses breathing down your neck. Curious coworkers asking personal questions. Cursing customers who never leave you alone. Your job can be filled with tons of hilarious situations that can easily entertain a crowd.

18. During the summer...

Any scars with stories? Any summer flings? Any lessons learned from the tanning too long? Now that summer is over, disclose memories that can leave positive impressions on others.

19. I volunteer at...

Do you do any community service? Share a funny moment while you were volunteering. What did you learn while there? Would you continue?

20. [blank] is meaningful to me because...

What do you appreciate in life? What brightens your day? What makes you fall in love? What does someone have to do to make you smile?

Finally, remember to be outgoing! Reveal that three-mile smile and open your arms to learning about others. Spread smiles, love, and happiness.

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I Didn't Join A Panhellenic Sorority

It's okay if you don't join a panhellenic sorority. Sometimes a different organization can turn out to be the best thing.


Before going to college I was faced with a dilemma, should I rush? I wanted to rush just for the social aspect, I thought it would be my best shot at making a bunch of friends. However, deep down I knew that greek life really wasn't me. I didn't want to do something if I wasn't one hundred percent behind it. There was a part of me that did want to be in a sorority but the other part of me really didn't want to rush. Let me be clear, I don't think Greek life is bad, I just think it wasn't for me. I talked to my brother and sister-in-law about this because they both were in Greek life at the college I attend now; they told me that they didn't think I would like it either.

What my brother and sister-in-law told me that I might like was, a Christian sorority called Sigma Phi Lambda. When they described it to me it seemed like exactly what I was wanting. As soon as I got to college I sought them out; and I went to their recruitment nights. I loved it! It was exactly what I was looking for. I ended up joining. This sorority brought me an amazing group of friends! Most importantly, I have joined the perfect sorority for me! A few things I liked most about Sigma Phi Lambda was the people were so welcoming, it was more low key and laid back, I was still able to have a big and a "Pham", we still did lots of sorority things whilst also having activities that strengthened us on our walks with the Lord, and I gained so many sisters that I now have strong relationships with. Sigma Phi Lambda gave me so many friends and something to be involved in on campus. They gave me somewhere to belong and I am so glad I chose to join them.

Rushing may be exactly what you need when you go to college, but if it's not that is okay. Just join something that makes you happy. Join an organization that helps you grow and surrounds you with people that you want to be around. I promise when you get to college that there is an organization for just about everything, find the one that fits you. No matter what you choose I promise it's good. Just make sure you choose what is right for you.

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