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It's Okay To Not Be Okay

Ups and downs are abundant.

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It's Okay To Not Be Okay
Kari Joys MS

It seems that people these days think that if you are having a down day, you just need to get over it and let it go. Well, I've got something to say to those people...

It's okay to not be okay.

If you're anything like me, when you're upset, you just need time. If something gets me down or fired up, I need time to let that pass. Let me soak up those emotions and brew a little bit, because I can't just bounce back. I don't have a wall to block my emotions from collapsing like they do. Let it happen, let me be.

I appreciate when people want to reach out and fix things, but I don't need someone to fix me. Be a friend, be supportive. Just be there, but don't try to "cure the emotion," because it won't happen. I think I can vouch for several when I say that someone telling us "don't be anxious", "don't be sad", "don't get down on yourself," it doesn't help. I appreciate the effort, but it just makes it harder to deal with the moment.

Another thing, there is nothing wrong with being emotional sometimes. I am not weak, I am not vulnerable, I am not less than you because you are emotionless. I have a big heart and an embracing love and my emotions don't make me insignificant.

Stop looking down on people who are hurting or having a down day as if they are seeking out your pity. We don't want your pity. Let us deal with our own feelings and if you want a part in it, be a friend. But, please stop trying to fix it. Your words of wisdom aren't that wise and it makes us feel worse.

It's okay to not be okay, sometimes.

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