Not Getting A Bid Doesn't Mean They Don't Like You
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Not Getting A Bid Doesn't Mean They Don't Like You

Formal recruitment is a crazy process, but it's so worth it.

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Not Getting A Bid Doesn't Mean They Don't Like You
Sorority Lyfe

To the girl who wasn't called back to her first choice sorority,

Trust the process.

Going through sorority formal recruitment is stressful. Most potential new members (PNMs) don't know much about Greek life. Sometimes girls come through recruitment with their heart set on one particular sorority, and find themselves disappointed when they aren't called back to them for the next round of open houses.

I want to remind every girl that not being called back by the sorority you had your heart set on does not mean they don't like you. Recruitment is a crazy process, on both ends. If you end up joining a sorority, you'll understand that bid sessions are more complex than, "We like this woman, we don't like this one." As someone who was just on the other side of recruitment for the first time this semester, I can vouch for this. Recruitment is hard, and deciding who to extend a bid to is hard. I promise you that if you weren't called back to a certain house, it most likely wasn't because they just didn't like you.

Remember that just because you didn't get into one organization, doesn't mean you can't be friends with them if you join another. The organization that I had my heart set on before recruitment didn't call me back after the first day, and I couldn't be happier for it. I went through recruitment with an open mind, and I found my home in the chapter that I ended up preffing number one on the last day. That doesn't mean I no longer speak to the women in that other sorority. Some of them are very good friends of mine still, even though they didn't become my sisters.

My recruitment counselor gave me the advice I've just given you: stick it out. If it weren't for her, I would have dropped. I would have never found the chapter I call home. I wouldn't be a member of an amazing organization. Keep an open mind through the entire process, and you won't regret it.

I promise you'll find your home, even if it's not where you expected it to be.

Sincerely,

A girl who has been there.

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