if your goal in life is to find you a husband and settle down and have dozens of kids, then that is great for you. However your desire of being a humble child-bearing wife does not have to be everyone's dream. Many people including myself have absolutely no desire to have a child and it is not because I hate kids, its not because I am young and I'll "change my mind later", and it is certainly not because I am part she- Devil.
there are multiple reasons as to why the idea of children do not bring a sparkle and a tear to my eye..
basically I am selfish... point blank period. although I do not mean selfish as in rich girl who thinks shes better than everyone. When I use the word selfish here I simply mean that I have so many things that I want to do that I would not even have the time of day to having little ones running around.
I want to wake up everyday go to a job that I love ( and have worked so hard to get) and not have to worry about which nanny is going to be watching the kids this afternoon. I want to come home from my job to my wonderful husband and enjoy his presence. His presence alone.
there are multiple reasons one could choose to live a child free life, however, I have broken it down into my top three reasons as to why its a no-go for me and coutnless others like me.
1. money
this reason alone keeps me up at night. in fact CNNmoney did a report on how much exactly it is to raise a child. warning: the numbers are a bit scary. do you know what I could buy if I was saving that kind of money each year? I could be living on a yacht and traveling the world.
2. Your time
Children can put a stain on any marriage. Like I said before I just want to come home to my husband and spend all the time and energy that people would typically spend on their children on my marriage. Instead of worrying who will take little sue to ballet lessons and who is going to go to Jonny's soccer game, me and the hubs could be chilling at home or going to fancy dinners, or really anything that we wish to do.
3. not motherly
simply put I am not what one would call "motherly" while one person see's a sweet little newborn all I see is a potato. while one person would get up and check on the baby when it is crying in the middle of the night, all I would want to do is hit the snooze button. so many people have informed me that will change once I have my own......I guess I'll never experience being motherly because I don't plan on having any of my own.
so please stop telling me I will regret not having children, and stop telling me I will change my mind, because you know what? if i do in fact change my mind I'll go and adopt a dog.
