I am a 20-year-old independent, hardworking female who does not need a man. Who else can say this and actually mean it? And no, those of you who swear by this life motto and then throw yourself at any and all random guys every weekend in hopes of it being your Prince Charming do not count.
In today's society, women are taught to spend their lives imagining and creating their dream wedding with their dream Prince Charming who comes to save them and lives happily ever after, after creating a beautiful family with their Prince Charming.
Well here's the thing, I don't need to be saved. Depending on another person for happiness is just not my style. I don't spend my free time looking on Pinterest and other social media accounts at dream wedding venues and dresses. The thought of having children in the future makes me want to throw up/pull my hair out. When I meet a guy that I like and could potentially see dating (this is extremely rare), I don't think about marriage or staying with them for the rest of my life. And that's OK.
It's OK to be selfish in your 20s. It's OK to not day dream about marriage or having a family or not wanting anything to do with it at all. Not wanting the typical fairy tale story as your life is OK. Not all women need a Prince Charming or want to get married. Not all women want to make a family or have kids. Whether they do or do not, and whether their thought on the matter will change with age is none of societies business.
As women, we are constantly asked, "Are there any new boys in your life?" and when the response is "no," it is followed by the statement "Oh, don't worry you'll find a good guy soon." Trust me, finding a guy is the last of my concerns. I have more important things to worry about, like what I want to do with my life, becoming successful, and whether I should go to the gym or eat an entire bag of chocolate covered pretzels instead (it's my guilty pleasure, don't judge).
My point is, our society makes females believe that having a perfect fairy tale life should be their top priority and concern. For those of you like myself who could care less about this fairy tale life at this point in our lives, that's totally OK. You shouldn't feel judged or feel like there is something wrong with you solely because you don't follow all of society's norms and beliefs. As long as you are happy with the life you are living, then who cares what others think of it? You are the one living it and it's your happiness that matters, so screw anyone who tries to make you feel bad for not living the same life as they are.
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