First of all, let me apologize to my exes. I didn’t know what I was doing and I see why I pushed all of you away.
Checking someone’s location constantly...
I checked your location and saw you were at Starbucks when you said you were on your way. Who were you meeting up with? I couldn’t believe you had the audacity to go see one of your side hoes at Starbucks. I waited for you. I saw your little dot on the move from Starbucks to my house. I came outside ready to yell at you so much.
You saw me, smiled, and walked up with a venti of my favorite frappucino. You weren’t up there meeting up with someone else, you were being cute for our anniversary. I was so quick to jump to conclusions though because I saw your location. I thought I had to know every single place you went, but if I trusted you then I should have waited for you to tell me about your day.
Snapchat...
If you don’t have a yellow heart on Snapchat, you two aren’t a real thing, right?
We got to a red heart, and we were so close to getting the little pink hearts, but one day you didn’t talk to me. Then we lost our yellow heart. You told me you weren’t talking to anyone else, but what was I to think when you literally just lost the heart? I’m no longer your number one best friend on Snapchat. Later on, you finally talked to me. I was waiting a while to ask you about it because I knew you didn’t care or notice anyway.
When I asked you, you thought I was still your best friend, you had no idea we even lost the heart. I was broken because I thought it was a bigger deal to you. But why did it matter so much? Why does a heart on an app make or break the relationship? Your cousin took the yellow heart.
"Streaks"...
This is a word you might see on a daily basis. What’s the point of it though? Why does it matter that you’ve Snapchatted someone for 700 days in a row? Why does it matter so much that we can’t break them? When you get in a relationship do you let those streaks with people you used to talk to just die?
Are you supposed to keep Snapchatting them every day because the number 47 is such a big deal? But for what? To see just a plain selfie every day? To see the word 'streak’ on a blank screen? They’re pointless, so don’t let it ruin a relationship by holding on to guys/girls in your past.
Facebook official...
We all know that Facebook defines our relationship, right? Like once your family sees that you're "In a relationship" with someone, that's the real definition of being in a relationship. But is that what we're going to let define our relationships? If you love someone you shouldn't have to worry about plastering that you're dating them everywhere.
Friends...
It's their decision when they want to hang out with people. Don't freak out when they want to hang out with friends of the opposite sex. I know how hard it is to trust your girl enough to believe that when she says she's hanging out with a guy friend that they are only hanging out with that friend...
That they could hug, but it's not the same type of hug she gives you every day. She doesn't look at him like she looks at you. She needs friends to keep her stable. She can't only have you because if you broke up, and she had nobody besides you, she won't see a reason to live. She has to have other friends.
I've been told that all of these things are what make you "relationship goals." You have to know their every move. You have to have to have a number over 100 next to a colored heart emoji on an app. You have to be Facebook official to be real and to show your love to the world so everyone else backs off. And you can only have each other, you're not allowed to have any other friends.
I'm so sorry for thinking it was cute to go crazy on someone for not living up to these standards.
