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Nonchalant Doesn't Mean I'm Emotionless

I am one very nonchalant person but that doesn't mean that I don't care or am not listening to you.

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Nonchalant Doesn't Mean I'm Emotionless
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Are you that person that usually gives this look when someone is talking?

And when you make this face, do people often times tell you that you’re emotionless or act like you don’t care? Well, guess what? You’re not alone. If you personally know me, and you know when I’m chilled and relaxed, I often look something like this.


Or even this when you’re talking to me.

But although I look like this when you’re talking to me, trust me when I say I am listening to everything you are telling me. People are misguided when it comes to nonchalant people especially if you’re not nonchalant yourself. I’ve always been nonchalant and don’t plan on changing it anytime soon. But what I want to stress to those who are not nonchalant is that nonchalant does not mean I have no feelings. It’s more so of I keep a lot of my feelings to myself. If you’re one of my close friends or even roommate, you know that I rarely express my feelings to you unless I’m just fed up with life at the moment. Even then, I’m still reluctant in sharing how I feel. I like to deal with my emotions to myself and not include others in expressing myself.

I have friends that will break down and cry in front of me and I just kind of sit there like this:

But if they notice, I let them vent without interrupting and let them express themselves without talking. The moment they are done is the moment I comfort them and let them know I’m always there (which I am).

If you’ve ever sat there with a person who is nonchalant, you often wonder "do they ever cry, or think about anything, or do they just sit there and look at the world like they would rather not be there?" Well, I’m here to say we have a lot of emotions that are kept inside so we can stay strong on the outside. I usually have to stay strong for the people around me and help them get through what they have to go through and then deal with my own feelings at a different time. When you find yourself doing this a lot, it can lead to you becoming a person more on the nonchalant side of things. It’s not that I don’t care, it’s just I have to put my feelings on hold. Putting my feelings on hold isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it is something that is done often.

Sometimes nonchalant people would just rather not deal with the emotions they feel and push them to the side and wait until they can think alone. Just know that if you know someone who is nonchalant just know they probably do most of their deepest thinking at night when they are alone. This is the best time to cope with the world around us and become immune to a lot of the things around. This is also the best time to let go of any emotions we’ve been keeping in. Being nonchalant is a way to show how strong we can be without using our emotions in the forefront. We just choose to deal with emotions a little differently from everyone.

So the next time you see someone that is nonchalant just know they have feelings they’re just keeping them from you at the moment.

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