I Don't Need a "New Year, New Me"

I Don't Need A 'New Year, New Me' Because The Old Me Is Already Pretty Good

Why would I change just because of a date on the calendar?


It's the end of 2018. Let's be honest, we thought it would never come. This past year has been a turbulent one within our county, and I'm sure a lot of people are ready to see it go. Permanently. And I think the New Year is always a good time to reflect and think about what we want to change as a society. How can we be better? What can we do differently? What will bring us closer together after a year that seemed to do nothing but tear people apart?

But why does thought process of change have to extend to EVERY aspect of our lives? Sure we can always be better, but that doesn't mean we need to talk about the New Year holiday as a time of completely revamping ourselves. When did this holiday become so negative about the previous year that we can't even think about the things that we did well? Just because society was a mess this past year doesn't inherently mean that our personal lives were.

If you want to take the New Year date on the calendar to use as a goal to make a personal change, then more power to you. But count me out. I'm not going to make some kind of pretense that I was the perfect human being in 2018. That would be 1) wrong and 2) hypocritical and 3) definitely wrong. Nobody's perfect. *Cue Hannah Montana Music* But I did some good things this past year, and I'm going to give myself some credit for it. And you should too.

I highly doubt that you went through 2018 as a complete failure. There had to be some positives that made your past year successful. Celebrate them! Don't get so caught up in "I could have done this better" or "I'm going to change that" language and forget how *awesome* you are! There's room for improvement, definitely. Anyone who thinks they're above improvement is kidding themselves. But as important as it is to learn from the past, we need to celebrate the past victories too, not get so caught up in negative rhetoric about the past year that we forget that we did *good* things, too.

Maybe you brought your grades up from the past year. I'm sure you're thinking about new study methods to bring them up even higher, and that's great. Always aim for improvement. But you *did* bring your grades up from previously! Celebrate that! Be proud of that achievement, instead of only thinking about what you could do to be even better. If you don't give yourself some credit, what's the point in doing all the hard work in the first place?

So this New Year, I'm not going to try to make a new me. The old me is pretty good, and I'm going to work to improve to make the old me great. I don't need to completely change myself to reach my goals for 2019, and neither do you. Don't change who you are, being the best version of who you are to mold that past into who you want to be. *You* have so much experience, life, love, and ambition that you shouldn't forsake that (or even use language that does) in the New Year as you work towards your goals. Celebrate where you were, take the old you, keep it close, and take the new experiences and new mindsets to get where you want to go.

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A list Of 15 Inspiring Words That Mean So Much

A single word can mean a lot.

Positivity is so important in life. A lot of times we always go to quotes for empowerment but I have realized that just one word can be just as powerful. Here is a list of inspiring words.

1. Worthy

Realizing your self-worth is important. Self-worth can really make or break a persons personality. Always know that you are worthy of respect. And also, never compare yourself to others.

2. Courage

Be courageous in life. Life has so many opportunities so do not be scared to grasp any opportunity that comes your way. You have the ability to do anything you have your heart and mind set to do, even the things that frighten you.

3. Enough

When you are feeling down and feeling that nothing you do is ever good enough, know that you are more than enough. And yes there is always room for improvement but when it comes to my self-worth I always have to remind myself that I am enough.

4. Blessed

Be thankful. A lot of times we forget how blessed we are. We focus so much on stress and the bad things that are going on in our lives that we tend to forget all of the beautiful things we have in life.

5. Focus

Focus on your goals, focus on positive things, and focus on the ones you love. Do not focus on things that will keep you from not reaching your goals and people that do not have good intentions for your life.

6. Laugh

Laughing is one of the best forms of medicine. Life is truly better with laughter.

7. Warrior

Through the good and the bad you are a warrior. Be strong, soldier.

8. Seek

Seek new things. Allow yourself to grow in life. Do not just be stuck.

9. Faith

During the bad times, no matter the circumstances, have faith that everything will be all right.

10. Live

Start living because life is honestly way too short. Live life the way you want to live. Do not let anyone try to control you.

11. Enjoy

Enjoy everything that life has to offer. Enjoy even the littlest of things because, as I said before, life is short. And plus, there is no time to live life with regrets.

12. Believe

Believe in yourself and never stop. Believing in yourself brings so many blessings and opportunities in your life.

13. Serendipity

A lot of times we look for things to fill an empty void that we have. Usually what we are looking for comes when we are not looking at all. Your serendipity will come.

14. Create

Share your ideas with the world. Creativity brings change to your life. However you chose to use your creativity do not be scared to show your intelligence, talent, and passion.

15. Love

The world is already full of so much hate, so love unconditionally with all your heart.

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The Rejuvenating Qualities Of Panama City Beach

There are definitely some healing properties in these ocean waves.


We have gone to the beach quite a few times this summer season. We live around 2 hours away and try to make it to Panama City Beach at least once a week. It's a venture for sure, but compared to the 7-day drive from The Rockies of Colorado to the Peanut Capital of the World, Dothan, Alabama (a time in which no one has heard of) we can't really make any excuses.

Now, I am sitting here typing away in the early morning while watching a summer storm blow in over the sea but, make no doubt about it, the ocean and its shores are one of the most healing, rejuvenating places on this planet. There is a calm in the break of the waves on the shoreline, and yet it pairs with an unspoken knowledge that the ocean is this uncontrollable force.

This isn't a speech on saving the planet and being eco-friendly, recycling and watching out for our beaches, which is a topic I am very passionate about and a post I would totally create. This is simply an open letter to those who might need to get away in order to revive their souls.

If you are anything like me, you have emotions pulsing through you at all times, ideas about everything under the sun, a longing to explore and adventure, and a deep need for rest, all at the same time. There are not many things in this world that truly satisfy me. There is a lot of disappointment. There is a lot of wrongdoing and suffering. It's overwhelming.

That is why I come to the beach. It removes the overwhelming things.

You see, there is nothing complicated about the waves (unless you make it complicated, but we stay away from people like you). They are simple. They are peaceful. And 99% of the time in my life that is what I need, simplicity and peace. I over-complicate things myself, I make excuses and I feel hurt in most moments of my life. I lived an exposed, vulnerable lifestyle that drains me.

That is why I love the ocean. It replenishes my drained soul. It energizes me. It is motivating and inspiring, relaxing and unwinding.

I don't pass out advice. I never have. I do, however, try living an honest life, always in the moment, so I can share my experiences in hopes that others might find them helpful. That is precisely why I am writing this. Because if you could just get to the beach, to a shoreline, it might change you. Seeing this vast landscape changes your perspective on the situations in your life you thought might overtake you.

The ocean speaks. It heals. It tells your worries to cease and your mind to rest. It tells your body to relax and your busy schedule that there IS time to take a moment. Don't forget to take a moment for yourself this summer season.

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