I Don't Need A 'New Year, New Me' Because The Old Me Is Already Pretty Good

I Don't Need A 'New Year, New Me' Because The Old Me Is Already Pretty Good

Why would I change just because of a date on the calendar?


It's the end of 2018. Let's be honest, we thought it would never come. This past year has been a turbulent one within our county, and I'm sure a lot of people are ready to see it go. Permanently. And I think the New Year is always a good time to reflect and think about what we want to change as a society. How can we be better? What can we do differently? What will bring us closer together after a year that seemed to do nothing but tear people apart?

But why does thought process of change have to extend to EVERY aspect of our lives? Sure we can always be better, but that doesn't mean we need to talk about the New Year holiday as a time of completely revamping ourselves. When did this holiday become so negative about the previous year that we can't even think about the things that we did well? Just because society was a mess this past year doesn't inherently mean that our personal lives were.

If you want to take the New Year date on the calendar to use as a goal to make a personal change, then more power to you. But count me out. I'm not going to make some kind of pretense that I was the perfect human being in 2018. That would be 1) wrong and 2) hypocritical and 3) definitely wrong. Nobody's perfect. *Cue Hannah Montana Music* But I did some good things this past year, and I'm going to give myself some credit for it. And you should too.

I highly doubt that you went through 2018 as a complete failure. There had to be some positives that made your past year successful. Celebrate them! Don't get so caught up in "I could have done this better" or "I'm going to change that" language and forget how *awesome* you are! There's room for improvement, definitely. Anyone who thinks they're above improvement is kidding themselves. But as important as it is to learn from the past, we need to celebrate the past victories too, not get so caught up in negative rhetoric about the past year that we forget that we did *good* things, too.

Maybe you brought your grades up from the past year. I'm sure you're thinking about new study methods to bring them up even higher, and that's great. Always aim for improvement. But you *did* bring your grades up from previously! Celebrate that! Be proud of that achievement, instead of only thinking about what you could do to be even better. If you don't give yourself some credit, what's the point in doing all the hard work in the first place?

So this New Year, I'm not going to try to make a new me. The old me is pretty good, and I'm going to work to improve to make the old me great. I don't need to completely change myself to reach my goals for 2019, and neither do you. Don't change who you are, being the best version of who you are to mold that past into who you want to be. *You* have so much experience, life, love, and ambition that you shouldn't forsake that (or even use language that does) in the New Year as you work towards your goals. Celebrate where you were, take the old you, keep it close, and take the new experiences and new mindsets to get where you want to go.

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A list Of 15 Inspiring Words That Mean So Much

A single word can mean a lot.

Positivity is so important in life. A lot of times we always go to quotes for empowerment but I have realized that just one word can be just as powerful. Here is a list of inspiring words.

1. Worthy

Realizing your self-worth is important. Self-worth can really make or break a persons personality. Always know that you are worthy of respect. And also, never compare yourself to others.

2. Courage

Be courageous in life. Life has so many opportunities so do not be scared to grasp any opportunity that comes your way. You have the ability to do anything you have your heart and mind set to do, even the things that frighten you.

3. Enough

When you are feeling down and feeling that nothing you do is ever good enough, know that you are more than enough. And yes there is always room for improvement but when it comes to my self-worth I always have to remind myself that I am enough.

4. Blessed

Be thankful. A lot of times we forget how blessed we are. We focus so much on stress and the bad things that are going on in our lives that we tend to forget all of the beautiful things we have in life.

5. Focus

Focus on your goals, focus on positive things, and focus on the ones you love. Do not focus on things that will keep you from not reaching your goals and people that do not have good intentions for your life.

6. Laugh

Laughing is one of the best forms of medicine. Life is truly better with laughter.

7. Warrior

Through the good and the bad you are a warrior. Be strong, soldier.

8. Seek

Seek new things. Allow yourself to grow in life. Do not just be stuck.

9. Faith

During the bad times, no matter the circumstances, have faith that everything will be all right.

10. Live

Start living because life is honestly way too short. Live life the way you want to live. Do not let anyone try to control you.

11. Enjoy

Enjoy everything that life has to offer. Enjoy even the littlest of things because, as I said before, life is short. And plus, there is no time to live life with regrets.

12. Believe

Believe in yourself and never stop. Believing in yourself brings so many blessings and opportunities in your life.

13. Serendipity

A lot of times we look for things to fill an empty void that we have. Usually what we are looking for comes when we are not looking at all. Your serendipity will come.

14. Create

Share your ideas with the world. Creativity brings change to your life. However you chose to use your creativity do not be scared to show your intelligence, talent, and passion.

15. Love

The world is already full of so much hate, so love unconditionally with all your heart.

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Hey Girl, Grace Speaks Louder Than Your False Humility So Stop Saying You're Not Enough

"Love is louder than the pressure to be perfect" - Demi Lovato


The amount of times I've said the words "not good enough" in the last week is appalling.

I'm not a good enough daughter or sister.

I'm not a good enough friend or leader.

I'm not a good enough worker.

I'm just not good enough.

No matter how far ahead I was in one area, I was falling behind in everything else. And if you're a perfectionist like me or at least you used to be, you've had one of those weeks before.

A week of beating yourself up for not being good enough. If you've said it enough times, you actually start to feel it. The unworthiness you've proclaimed over yourself just by repeating the words "not enough" over and over.


A.J. Swoboda and Ken Wytsma "We eventually become our words. We not only become the words we believe about God, but we also become the words spoken over us by ourselves, others, and society."

When God spoke creation into existence, He called it good. But then we perfectionists go and undermine what God has already defined well when we say, "Um, no, not good enough." That's when our words about ourselves become the words we believe about God.

When we go and say "not good enough," we say that our opinions matter more than our own Creator. We .limit the power God has to speak creation into existence. This right here is where we meet pride as it continues to build walls around us just so that it can give us a false sense of humility.

Next, if it's true that we tend to become what we are called, the words we say about ourselves impact the way live and behave. Say you're "not good enough" enough times and you'll soon be bearers of those words, feeling unworthy to accept the grace that God has for us. Our words were never supposed to be more important than His Word but our pride has made it so.

Pride rejects grace over and over again.

Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with developing your character and watching you grow. But if your words are only to criticize and shame yourself, that's not the right character your building.

Correction should always be from love and grace and that's not found in the words "not good enough."

So, enough is enough! Ladies, we need to stop being so darn on ourselves.

We need to draw near to God and let him tear down our walls of pride and false humility so that we can accept the grace that he gives us even when we feel we're at our lowest.

Grace says we're His daughters and we're sisters in Christ.

Grace says the He is our best friend and He's shaping us into leaders just like Him.

Grace says we're free from captivity.

Grace says we are a new creation and that we are made good.

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