I Am Not A Feminist

I Am Not A Feminist

And why I am not for the modern feminism movement.

I am proud of being a lady. I am glad that women have the right to vote. I think men and women are created equally. And yet, I am not a feminist and do not wish to be associated as one.

The modern feminism movement has associated "created equally" with being the same. God created men and women in His image and says that we are all one in Christ (Galatians 3:28). This does not mean that we are the same. Men and women have different roles; this is why men and women are not identical and why we should not try to be. It is amazing that women can give birth (1 Corinthians 11:12), it is a miracle that happens everyday. Men are blessed with the role of authority. This does not mean that women are inferior to men, but that they should respect men in authority. Men do not try to take our roles and we should not try to take theirs. We are biologically created uniquely and we should not wish to change that, but be glad that God gave man a partner (woman).

This brings me to my next point that modern feminism does not create peace and unity, but strife and confusion. The modern feminism movement has created a group of women that think they need to go against men. Women can want equal rights, but should not go about it by trying to bring down men. This creates a culture of disrespect. This movement has also created strife between women. The rise of gender equality was originally created for political and occupational equality, not to attack the opposite gender, and especially not to attack women who have differing views. I saw this picture the other day and was surprised by the way equal rights has turned into an exclusive group.

We need to stop attacking people with different views. Advocate for your political and occupational rights without bringing others down. Creating change should not create individuals who discriminate in order to get what they want.

So many times we hear that women need to get out of the house and get a job and not let a man have authority over them. But I think that women should have the freedom to make their own choices without being judged and looked down upon because this is what the beginning founders of women’s rights would want. I want to be a stay-at-home mom and I want to submit to my husband (Colossians 3:18). Just because I want to work in the home does not mean that I am not taking advantage of the rights of women, but that I am exercising my freedom as a human. We should focus less on women versus men, or even women versus women, but the beauty in human life and our natural born rights. It’s amazing that God created man and woman in His image, but that He wanted them to have different positions in this world.

May we learn to be grateful that God created man and woman differently and that we have different roles and abilities that we should appreciate. I am glad that I am a woman/lady/female, but I do not want to be called a modern feminist. I don’t want to support the rise of one gender over another or the idea that women should not be pleased with their role.

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This Is How Your Same-Sex Marriage Affects Me As A Catholic Woman

I hear you over there, Bible Bob.

It won't.

Wait, what?

I promise you did read that right. Not what you were expecting me to say, right? Who another person decides to marry will never in any way affect my own marriage whatsoever. Unless they try to marry the person that I want to, then we might have a few problems.

As a kid, I was raised, baptized, and confirmed into an old school Irish Catholic church in the middle of a small, midwestern town.

Not exactly a place that most people would consider to be very liberal or open-minded. Despite this I was taught to love and accept others as a child, to not cast judgment because the only person fit to judge was God. I learned this from my Grandpa, a man whose love of others was only rivaled by his love of sweets and spoiling his grandkids.

While I learned this at an early age, not everyone else in my hometown — or even within my own church — seemed to get the memo. When same-sex marriage was finally legalized country-wide, I cried tears of joy for some of my closest friends who happen to be members of the LGBTQ community.

I was happy while others I knew were disgusted and even enraged.

"That's not what it says in the bible! Marriage is between a man and a woman!"

"God made Adam and Eve for a reason! Man shall not lie with another man as he would a woman!"

"Homosexuality is a sin! It's bad enough that they're all going to hell, now we're letting them marry?"

Alright, Bible Bob, we get it, you don't agree with same-sex relationships. Honestly, that's not the issue. One of our civil liberties as United States citizens is the freedom of religion. If you believe your religion doesn't support homosexuality that's OK.

What isn't OK is thinking that your religious beliefs should dictate others lives.

What isn't OK is using your religion or your beliefs to take away rights from those who chose to live their life differently than you.

Some members of my church are still convinced that their marriage now means less because people are free to marry whoever they want to. Honestly, I wish I was kidding. Tell me again, Brenda how exactly do Steve and Jason's marriage affect yours and Tom's?

It doesn't. Really, it doesn't affect you at all.

Unless Tom suddenly starts having an affair with Steve their marriage has zero effect on you. You never know Brenda, you and Jason might become best friends by the end of the divorce. (And in that case, Brenda and Tom both need to go to church considering the bible also teaches against adultery and divorce.)

I'll say it one more time for the people in the back: same-sex marriage does not affect you even if you or your religion does not support it. If you don't agree with same-sex marriage then do not marry someone of the same sex. Really, it's a simple concept.

It amazes me that I still actually have to discuss this with some people in 2017. And it amazes me that people use God as a reason to hinder the lives of others.

As a proud young Catholic woman, I wholeheartedly support the LGBTQ community with my entire being.

My God taught me to not hold hate so close to my heart. He told me not to judge and to accept others with open arms. My God taught me to love and I hope yours teaches you the same.

Disclaimer - This article in no way is meant to be an insult to the Bible or religion or the LGBTQ community.

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All Good Things Are Wild And Free, Right?

Free your soul and be happy.

The word 'free' can allude to many things. My mom always says that nothing is ever free. But what about your soul? Is it free? Does everyone have a free soul? I think that everyone has the potential to have a free soul but whether or not they decide to live that lifestyle is up to them.

Until recently, I never thought of myself as a free spirit, but I am. Although I didn’t begin with a free soul, I evolved into one. Life throws you trials and tribulations and it's meant for you to grow from these obstacles. And I have.

People always question me about my careless attitude. Careless meaning that I don’t care what others think. I never actually answer the question, but here’s the answer: once you figure out that you can’t make everyone happy by the decisions you make and start doing the things that make you happy is when you become free from others.

The phrase “damned if you, damned if you don’t” applies here perfectly. People will find something wrong with you and your life decisions no matter what you decide. There’s no way to make everyone happy, it's just not possible.

I don’t wake up in the mornings to please anyone but myself. To have a free soul you must do the things that make you and you alone happy.

Free souls are happy souls. Finding inner happiness takes time. It takes being at rock bottom to find your own happiness. Being happy within means that you don’t have to rely on anyone to be happy, and that’s how it should be.

When you give other people the privilege of holding the key to your happiness chances are they’ll fail you. Other people can contribute to your overall happiness but always remember who you are and put your happiness first because if you’re not happy with yourself then how do you expect to keep someone else happy?

Do you, boo. It’s so cheesy, I know, but it’s how to keep you and your soul free from others control. Live your life and live it like there’s no tomorrow. Don’t live your days full of worry, regret, and unhappiness. Do the things that are necessary for you to be happy, who cares what other people think. If you’re unhappy and they’re happy, how is this benefitting you? It’s not.

Be selfish. Be selfish with your happiness and your freedom.

You don’t owe anything to anyone. Once you figure out that your own happiness should come first that’s when you begin to be free. And just a hint, the people that you’re trying so hard to please and make happy, don’t care about your happiness. So why should you care about theirs?

If you want to be free, then do you. Do the things that make you happy, stop caring about what others think. Find that inner happiness that is guaranteed every day, because it’s your own.

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