No Matter How Old I Might Get, I'll Still Need My Parents

No Matter How Old I Might Get, I'll Still Need My Parents

I need their love, their support, their advice, and their listening ears.

As I get older, I realize that while I am becoming more independent, I still need my parents very much. I might not need them to take me places or to make my dinner, but I still need them nonetheless.

The way I need my parents today is merely different than the way I needed them ten years ago.

I still need my parents' support, but a new kind of support.

The support I need nowadays is emotional support, rather than constant financial support and support through daily activities. I need my parents to encourage me in my endeavors as I enter into the real world. I need my parents to back me up in my career choice, in my studies, in my struggles, and in my journey to being completely on my own.

I still need my parents' wise words.

There's nothing quite like getting good advice from my parents. No matter what I'm facing, I know my parents will have some sort of input to give me. I can always count on them to tell me what to do in a situation, and to tell me what's best in the long run. It's taken me a good while to truly realize it, but my parents are much wiser than me and they've made it further in life than I have so far, so they know what they're talking about. I cherish my parents' wise words more than ever in my later college years, and I know that I'll continue to need these wise words and their advice for the years to come.

I still need my parents' listening ears.

My parents are the best people to talk to in so many circumstances. When I'm having a rough day, they're always there to listen to me vent. Even if I can't vent face-to-face, at least one of them will answer my calls and my many text messages. When I'm having a good day, they always want to hear about all the good things that happened.

As I grow older, I know that the stereotype is that I won't need my parents anymore, but that simply isn't true. While I might not need my mom to pick my clothes out, my dad to take me to school, or my lunch packed for me every day, I still need their presence and input in my life. I might be developing my own views and routines in my life, but I'll always need them in some way.

Right now, the things I need from them include support, advice, and a good listener. As I grow older, I'll still need all these things as well. Except, I'll need these things for different reasons. Right now, I'm finishing up school and entering my career, and I need them to keep me sane and for them to keep me from giving up. Years down the road, I'll need these things in the form of help buying my first home and while raising my own family.

No matter how old I may get, I'll always need my parents in one way or another.

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An Open Letter to the Person Who Still Uses the "R Word"

Your negative associations are slowly poisoning the true meaning of an incredibly beautiful, exclusive word.

What do you mean you didn't “mean it like that?" You said it.

People don't say things just for the hell of it. It has one definition. Merriam-Webster defines it as, "To be less advanced in mental, physical or social development than is usual for one's age."

So, when you were “retarded drunk" this past weekend, as you claim, were you diagnosed with a physical or mental disability?

When you called your friend “retarded," did you realize that you were actually falsely labeling them as handicapped?

Don't correct yourself with words like “stupid," “dumb," or “ignorant." when I call you out. Sharpen your vocabulary a little more and broaden your horizons, because I promise you that if people with disabilities could banish that word forever, they would.

Especially when people associate it with drunks, bad decisions, idiotic statements, their enemies and other meaningless issues. Oh trust me, they are way more than that.

I'm not quite sure if you have had your eyes opened as to what a disabled person is capable of, but let me go ahead and lay it out there for you. My best friend has Down Syndrome, and when I tell people that their initial reaction is, “Oh that is so nice of you! You are so selfless to hang out with her."

Well, thanks for the compliment, but she is a person. A living, breathing, normal girl who has feelings, friends, thousands of abilities, knowledge, and compassion out the wazoo.

She listens better than anyone I know, she gets more excited to see me than anyone I know, and she works harder at her hobbies, school, work, and sports than anyone I know. She attends a private school, is a member of the swim team, has won multiple events in the Special Olympics, is in the school choir, and could quite possibly be the most popular girl at her school!

So yes, I would love to take your compliment, but please realize that most people who are labeled as “disabled" are actually more “able" than normal people. I hang out with her because she is one of the people who has so effortlessly taught me simplicity, gratitude, strength, faith, passion, love, genuine happiness and so much more.

Speaking for the people who cannot defend themselves: choose a new word.

The trend has gone out of style, just like smoking cigarettes or not wearing your seat belt. It is poisonous, it is ignorant, and it is low class.

As I explained above, most people with disabilities are actually more capable than a normal human because of their advantageous ways of making peoples' days and unknowingly changing lives. Hang out with a handicapped person, even if it is just for a day. I can one hundred percent guarantee you will bite your tongue next time you go to use the term out of context.

Hopefully you at least think of my friend, who in my book is a hero, a champion and an overcomer. Don't use the “R Word". You are way too good for that. Stand up and correct someone today.

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My Catholic School Would Never Do What The Covington Catholic #MAGAteens Did

I went to Catholic school since preschool and even with divided political beliefs, I have faith no one would have acted this way.


I went to Catholic school my whole life. From preschool through high school.

The high school I went to definitely had divided political beliefs, but we embraced it. Instead of having a divide, we came together with clubs supporting voter registration and activism in your party of choice. We had a civics course and government course that required us to volunteer for campaigns.

On the religious side of things, we were required to complete service hours and it encouraged us to make change, learn about different cultures, and become involved. Throughout my time at Catholic school, I never was targetted by my race, political beliefs, or my view on religion.

It was not until I went to college outside of California that I started seeing changes in how people react to diversity. I am proud to have been raised in an environment that would have shut down and owned up to any severe or harmful actions their students would take.

In the era of a racial and political divide, it is important to remember the values that you were taught. Especially, when you involve religion.

The most important lesson I learned from Catholic school is to love your neighbor as yourself.

We are more similar than we are different. Especially in a melting pot like America. Become educated and aware before you target a group of people, who have not harmed you.

We can all learn a lot from the way Nathan Phillips handled the situation and we should all be alarmed about who was targetting him: the youth, the next generation.

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