Here's how the conversation normally goes:
"Hey, Beautiful." "hello" "How ya been?" "Good, and yourself?" "Great." This conversation continues with more small talk, which then turns into him asking about my love life, or the lack thereof.
Then the infamous line, "How is a cute girl like yourself single?" or "I bet you have guys falling all over you, why hasn't someone claimed you yet?" or "Would you be interested in getting to know a guy like me?"
Because I'm not easy. I don't put out. College boys usually only want one thing and that isn't something that I am willing to give up easily. I'm very selective about my decisions when it comes to men.
Because I will not be claimed. I am independent and don't need any man in my life.
Because I want the best. I want someone that is going to be patient with me, that is going to be real with me. I want someone who will fight for me.
Because I expect you to be your best. I could never be with someone that is lazy or not working towards a realistic goal. He must have ambition and a hard work ethic. I understand that people aren't perfect and that he'll mess up. But I need a man that will pick up after a mistake, accept the consequences, and work for better.
Because I'm picky. I don't really give guys much of a chance. I'm really good at pushing guys away the moment they annoy me. If I don't think that I can put up with the little things that he does, there is no point in taking the time to continue something.
Because I want someone that will challenge me. I want someone that will challenge my actions and make me work towards my best self, just as I will do to him.
Because I don't trust easily. This someone has to be honest and open. This someone has to be willing to take my honesty as well.
Because I want someone that will invest in me. I want someone who will learn who I am and accept me at my worst.
Because I come with a lot of baggage that most guys can't handle. This baggage has a tendency to scare guys away. Respect me, but don't live in my past.
Because most of the guys that have been interested in me are too clingy or don't pursue me enough. It seems like there is no happy medium. I always feel like guys are completely not interested in me or they annoy me too much.
Because I'm busy. Relationships take time and I really don't have that. I have a hard time making people a priority. Most guys want me to drop other things for them, but I won't really make those sacrifices right now.
Because college is about me. I'm taking this time to really learn about and focus on myself. I'm selfish because this time is to focus on my well-being, my experiences, and my academics.
Because I'm always the friend. Guys are comfortable around me and know that I won't judge them for the things that they say and do. This creates fast friendships and I usually prefer it this way anyway.
Because I would really like to find a man that loves the Lord. Having the support of a man that has the same beliefs as me would really benefit my life.
Because I'm opinionated. Guys always tell me that they like this aspect about me, but after they hear it too much, they eventually get their feelings hurt. Guys don't like to hear the things that come out of my mouth the majority of the time.
Because I'm driven. I'm planning on traveling and moving far away. I don't want to be stuck with a guy here that causes me to rethink traveling and making decisions for myself. They know that I will not change my life plans for them and I don't expect or want them to do the same for me. Chase your dreams and I will chase mine, we'll see where it takes us.
I know what all of you are thinking: "Wow, this girl is out of her mind expecting all of this out of one man. No wonder she is single!" Honestly, this is true. I expect a lot, mostly because it just isn't one of my top priorities. I have no time for games, which many college guys are all about. One day, God will place a man in my life that will prove he's worth my time, will respect my time and my dreams, and will give me a reason to look past all of the things that annoy me about him. God will place a man in my life that will pick up my baggage and help me carry it. He will be strong, driven, and independent, just as I.
