To all the people who are nice with a backbone keep on doing you because people will see that in you. People always see a nice person as a weak person, it’s debatable but I personally think it’s wrong. Just because someone is nice does not mean they are weak. Everyone wants to be treated with kindness in this world, yet people take advantage of that only if the person lets them…. I’ve been one of those victims over the years with being walked on because I was naive and too nice. I still am nice, but I don't let people take advantage of me anymore. My parents raised me to always be nice to people and to treat others nicely because it’ll come back to you always.

Growing up I was the girl that was nice to everyone and was almost a bit of a push over. Over the years I grew tired of being taken advantage of and being screwed over for whatever reason. For all the people out there who I grew up with and saw what was happening when I didn’t, thank you for helping me . I didn’t realize at the time what was going on, but I do now and I am forever grateful. People will help people who are kind to others and genuine. I guess it took going away to college to grow a back bone because I was on my own with new people and new experiences. No one knew me , how I was, or why I am the way I am.

In college I played soccer for this one school (which I will not name), but I came in not knowing many people, except my team mates. In the beginning it was all new and exciting getting to know the girls and bonding. Their was this one girl on our team who thought she was the queen of our squad and everyone had to follow her. Honestly, I was thinking to myself “I thought we were over this phase and left it in high school”. I personally kept my distance from her and did my own thing and chose carefully who I hung out with. Over the semester she’d talk about me behind my back and be sweet to my face (I don’t really tolerate that) and I got sick of it. They'd text me and come to my door and harass me. I was thinking to myself “this is college we should all be maturing and not be doing these sort of immature things”. Eventually, things escalated and it started getting out of hand. Finally, I just let her have it and she was tongue tied to say the least, but she had it coming for her. I guess it took her to finally bring out the backbone that I never knew I had in me.

After that incident, I’ve realized being nice but firm in general makes a world of a difference. People will push you because they think you won’t do anything about it and it gets tiring doesn't it?