Hey, you.
Watching you grow up and move on to bigger things has been an awesome experience. I don't doubt your abilities to thrive in this new environment, and make the best of your clean slate. I admire that excitement that's been painted on your face all summer. I can see your college visions laid out before you: cool mascot, classes you actually want to take, new girlfriends and new chances to be your goofy, amazing self.
I remember taking the first steps on that playground of a college campus, my first day. I know your nervousness, the joy you feel from the first wave someone gives you. In your eyes, I see the best four years of your life unfolding. It terrifies me to think of the challenges you'll face, especially those against your character. Regardless of the uncertainty, though, you will do as you always do, and make me proud. More importantly, I hope you make yourself proud. For that reason, I want to take a moment to share with you some things I wish somebody had told me about going off to college:
1) Skip class more often.
Seriously, you spent 13 years in grade school, waiting for the day your mom couldn't force you onto a school bus for the 8 am bell. When you need an off day, take it. You'll fight to catch up, but you deserve to play hooky without being scolded.
2) Don't pursue a major because of the money you'll make.
There are three options here: pursue a career you will ultimately hate, and even come to resent the money; wait too long to change your major and pile up debt wasted on classes; start this new journey in a way that you will actually enjoy.
3) Remember that the best memories are happened upon innocently, and unsuspectingly.
There will be times you feel tempted to get wasted with friends, because it's the thing to do, or because your peers talk about how hilarious and wild last weekend was. They won't remember any of it, and even worse, they will lose opportunities to grow in relationships at the price of a ruined liver.
Now, I know you're going to drink. You will sing karaoke at sloppy bars and pick up pretty girls who tell you that your eyes are flawless. Honestly, kid, have fun. Just know that the best memories you have will sneak up on you, at a time when you feel most fulfilled. Fulfillment does not come with a scattered, blackout state of mind.
4) You are worth every penny of this experience.
If you take out loans, welcome to the real world. You're about to learn a thing or two about money management, and there is nothing wrong with that. These are the best years because you discover yourself here. You make lifelong friendships here, and if you're lucky, find everything you've ever wanted. Don't put a price tag on your dreams.
5) I will always be here to call home when you're weary.
Exams suck. Profs could care less what your work load looks like in other classes, and your boss at the steakhouse assumes you desire a career in food serving. College is exhausting. The moment you need to have a breakdown, or are unsure of your next steps, remember you've got me. I've been there and fought those dragons, too. Let me know when you need somebody to understand, and I'll be waiting in your tiny dorm room with a home cooked meal and hug.
6) Make this experience uniquely yours.
High school is over. That means there's no such thing as petty cliques and "fitting in." Be yourself with all your might, and find the sprits that match yours, and befriend those who challenge your comfort zone. This is how we grow. You deserve the best, and I know it is there waiting for you.
Have fun, kid.
