11 Things I've Learned As A New Yorker Living In The South

11 Things I've Learned As A New Yorker Living In The South

This is what you should expect when moving to the south.

Growing up right outside of New York City was always a delight when I was younger. If I ever wanted to trade in my quiet suburb for the hustle and bustle of angry cab drivers and knockoff handbag salesmen, Grand Central Station was just a handful of train stops away. Despite the beauty of autumn in upstate New York and the addictive energy of Downtown Manhattan, come winter time you would find me frantically Zillow searching cheap bungalows in Bali until my toes defrost by mid Spring.

Luckily, the College of Charleston became my opportunity to get away from the cold by going as far down south as I could manage before hitting the Atlantic. While there are several cultural differences between the north and south apparent on the surface level, I was genuinely surprised upon discovering some of the things I'm about to discuss. These are 11 things I've observed during my time at college in South Carolina.

1. Accents mean nothing

First and foremost, let me quickly put this stereotype to rest. Before moving to Charleston, I naively thought could tell a lot about a person exclusively based on the thickness of their drawl. Whether you grew up with a southern twang or you pronounce it ‘New Joisey,’ the way a person speaks says literally nothing about their political opinions or intelligence levels.

2. People walk slow

It’s true that everything is slower in the south. To be able to stop and smell the roses is a cultural quality that I truly admire. Coming from a place where everyone gets from point A to B in a caffeine-induced frenzy, it's refreshing to see that people will still go for a casual stroll on a sunny afternoon.

3. There are so many blondes

Coming from a place where monochromatic outfits paired with jet black hair has become apart of an unwritten dress code, I’m sure you can imagine the culture shock I experienced upon moving to the land of Goldilocks and pastels. whatever hex us women in this city are under, I can guarantee that the longer we stay in Charleston South Carolina, the blonder and blonder we become.

4. We still have differing opinions on Abe Lincoln

This is by far the most random on this list, but one night, when delving deep into a boozed soaked conversation with friends, we all somehow reached the topic of Honest Abe and the opinions in the room immediately polarized. My friends from the north proudly stood by Abe’s achievements while my friends from the south dismissed the president as ‘overrated.’ I suppose the differing ideologies between the north and south have in fact maintained a hint of bad blood over the years after all.

5. Sweet tea is not as important as I expected

Storytime: Before moving down south I would hear rumors about how waiters and waitresses carry around pitchers of sweet tea like water and will substitute your bottomless glass of water with that sweet liquid gold, free of charge. It took one embarrassing trip to Toast of Charleston to learn that I couldn’t have been more wrong.

6. Apparently, some people think the Confederacy is still a thing

Sorry not sorry, you guys lost the war. Just take the huge, waving symbol of racism and oppression off the back of your pickup truck and we'll call it a day.

7. Feminism is a dirty word

Let me start by saying, as a self-proclaimed feme-nazi, I want you all to preach socioeconomic equality of men and women from the mountaintops. After growing up in a Blue state and attending a primarily liberal public High school I was surprised to hear people in my college classes apologizing before making a comment, simply because they’re too afraid of sounding like a feminist. Like gender equality is a bad thing?

8. Zaxby's isn’t a restaurant but a way of life

This fast food chain/heaven on earth has become its very own category on the food pyramid for college kids. My friends and I will drive down to the one on Folly Road whenever we’re feeling like loving ourselves a little extra that day. Why would anyone have to decide between a Nibbler Meal and a Chicken Finger Plate when you can just order one of everything on the menu?

9. People are beyond nice

No one threatens my life when I jaywalk anymore! I consider that a win, point blank period.

10. Northerners are more straightforward

If a New Yorker has something they want you to know, they will use the most direct language they can think of to tell you. Sometimes we can seem brusque, but hey, we know how to be efficient. Time is money after all.

11. ...But southerners know how to talk

You stop on the streets to help someone with directions and all of a sudden you know their maiden name, alma mater and you’ve agreed to be the plus one to their cousin's wedding.

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26 Times the English Language Has Given You A Headache

The optimism I had had had not affected the effects that this tricky language had on my brain.

It's no secret that the English language is confusing and pretty much impossible to learn if you're not a native speaker (I'm so impressed by anyone who can learn English as their second language and speak it well).I'm pretty sure that whoever came up with all these words that sound and are spelled similar, or all these rules that just simply don't make sense, just wanted to see people struggle.

1. Racket or racquet?

Can someone tell me which one is right?

2. Reckless or wreck-less?

If you're reckless, you won't be wreck-less.

3. Accept or except

They accept everything, except that.

4. Affect or effect?

The effects affected her.

5. Your or you're

You're going to your house?

6. To, two, too (and TUTU)

Here's a fun story: Before her first dance recital, the little girl went TO McDonald's and ate TWO TOO many French Fries in her TUTU.

7. The word abbreviation

The word that means a shortened version of a word, is 12 letters long, and has its own abbrev. What???

8. Their, they're, there

They're going to their house, which is over there.

9. Defiantly or definitely?

If I see one more post or tweet with defiantly or defanitely instead of definitely, I'm throwing my phone off a bridge.

10. What is a playwright?

It’s a person who WRITES plays, not a person who wrights plays. So who thought this spelling made sense?

11. Though, rough, bough, cough, through

So... what does -ough actually sound like?

12. Break and brake are pronounced the same, but leak and lake are pronounced differently.

This is the same for steak or stake, and beak or bake.

13. Lie, lay, laid, and lain: Let's get this straight, once and for all.

Here's how we're supposed to use the verb lie: He lies down on the bed. In past tense, he lay down on the bed. Or, he had lain down on the bed. Lie is an active verb meaning to recline oneself.

Now here's how we're supposed to use the word lay. He lays down the blanket. In the past tense, he laid down the blanket. Or, he had laid down the blanket. Lay is a passive verb meaning to set something down. Ya learn something new everyday.

14. It's rough, not ruff, but it's stuff, not stough

Also, it's tough, not tuff but it's bluff, not blough.

15. Lose or loose

Another common misspelling that I wish people would get right.

16. Bologna rhymes with phony or pony.

But cache and ache don't rhyme. Completely logical.

17. Groan vs. grown

She groaned because she had grown so tall.

18. Also, another thing about groan.

There's groan and loan, but then there's tone, bone, and phone instead of toan, boan, and phoan.

19. Farther and further are not synonyms.

She travelled farther than him. He explained the situation further.

20. Tear rhymes with tier, but it doesn't rhyme with tear.

21. Most contractions are actually really stupid and grammatically incorrect.

Don't you dare! — Do not you dare..?

Can’t you do this for me? — Can not you do this for me..?

22. Knight, know, and knife

Who decided that K's would be silent after N's?

23. It's rude, not rewd, but it's lewd, not lude.

The consistency of the English language is actually incredible.

24. Gage and gauge are pronounced the same, but gaze and gauze are pronounced differently.

Is it a guessing game to figure when to pronounce the "u"?

25. Flee and flea.

I hope the fleas will flee from my dog's fur.

26. "I before e except after c."

What about their, heir, heinous, feisty, sleigh, weird, and the multitude of other words that don't follow this rule?

There are so many more weird problems with the English language than just the few I've listed here, but I should probably stop before I give anyone a headache. Yay English!

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The Conversation About Diversity In The Arts: A Hot Topic For Arts Management Majors

There is always room for new inspiration.

Being an Arts Management major has opened my eyes to so many amazing things in the art world.

Some things are hard to wrap my head around, but the topics challenge me and allow me to think in a new perspective. As I am exposed to these inspiring topics, I have also learned and seen many issues that are within the art world, one of them being diversity and its role in the arts.

It is easy to say and think that there is plenty of diversity and opportunity when it comes to the arts. My way of thinking has always involved that idea.

Until I came to college and started deeply studying the arts and the management side of it, I didn’t realize just how elite and narrow the arts can appear to be. There is so much to be inspired by in the art world. No matter what kind of style it is, the audience can interpret it and be moved by it in so many ways.

However, I have come to learn that many art organizations like staying comfortable. There is this image that wants to be upheld and maintained, but it keeps a very diverse and inspired audience closed off. This is occurring with the audience and within the arts organizations, and some of us may not even realize it.

Without going into the business and management side of things, it is easy to say that there is simply an issue with the lack of diversity in the organizations managing and exposing certain art forms.

As artists, we all appreciate the traditional aspects of art and how far it has come.

However, times have changed and it is time to start accepting and adapting to new ways of expression. There are so many beautiful cultures and ideas that we should let in.

I am not a business person, but I have realized that without studying arts management, I would not have realized this issue. I am thankful that now I am able to keep an open mind within the art world in every way possible.

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