New Year, Better Me

New Year, Better Me

My biggest goal for this year is to love myself and to become stronger than ever before.


Happy New Year everyone! I hope that each and every one of you had an excellent holiday season, and hopefully an even better 2019.

I know for me that 2018 was one of the most difficult years to date, if not the worst. I experienced even more stress and pressure while being surrounds by bad situations and even worse friends. Not going to lie, some of this is my fault and I take full blame for specific tough times throughout this past year.

However, I did experience the occasional good time. I went on new adventures, explored new ideas on what I want to do with my life, expanded my horizons regarding my interests and hobbies. 2018 could be considered a good year for me from those looking from the outside. For me, however, this year I forgot my self-worth, gave up on my confidence, overstressed myself, and continued almost everything toxic in my life.

Which was, in turn, an extremely bad way to execute what could have a potentially good year.

Nevertheless, I have decided to not dwell too much on the past. I cannot change what has gone wrong already, however, I can change for the better this new year.

My new year's resolution is all about loving myself, which could be considered to be selfish to some, but for a girl who has almost always put other's needs before her own, this is a huge step.

I have decided to love myself unconditionally and unforgivingly. This means that I will no longer doubt my worth because of anyone. I will no longer brush offside comments that I know I internalize. I will no longer put other's wants before my feelings. I will no longer feel or be disrespected in a room full of my "friends".

I will, however, grow confident in myself like I once was and give no effort in trying to impress anyone. I want people to like me for me and if they cannot accept that they need to get out of my life. This isn't meant to have a harsh tone, I am just completely done for being blamed and manipulated by anyone.

I deserve better.

I deserve to love what I love to do. I deserve to trust in the people in my life. I deserve to live my life making my own decisions because you aren't sorry that you've destroyed me on an emotional level, you could care less, regardless of what you think.

Loving myself is my New Year's resolution and I could not be more excited to start!

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5 Things To Do When Your Professors Challenge Your Beliefs As A Christian

As long as you know God is FOR you, it doesn't matter who is AGAINST you.


Being a Christian in our world today is very, very challenging. There are many misconceptions about our beliefs and our morals, as well as people who believe we don't practice what we preach.

As a college student, I've come across many professors who enjoy challenging my beliefs due to the "lack of evidence" or the "impossibility" of the circumstances. While it frustrates me to no end, I've had to learn that arguing and debating with people who don't believe in God is pointless. They aren't going to change their mind and there's no way a college student is going to change that.

Arguing will get you nowhere, people are going to believe what they want to believe and we can't change that. Instead of trying to debate with your professors, do these five things instead. I assure you, you'll get much more out of them than an argument.

1. Pray

Pray to God to help you and your belief remain strong, but also pray that the Holy Spirit finds them and touches their heart. A heart that isn't filled with God is an awfully sad one.

2. Acknowledge that people don't always agree with your beliefs

If someone tried to convince you that God isn't real, you're not going to listen to their points or anything else that they have to say. Acknowledge that people think differently and sometimes you can't change that. Only God can.

3. Drop the class

This is really a last resort, but it's also understandable. I would hate to have to sit in a class where I felt personally attacked for over an hour each day. If you find yourself in this position, get OUT.

4. When things get too difficult-- bathroom break

Sometimes all you really need is a breather. When the lecture gets too tough, ask to go to the bathroom, get some water, and say a prayer.

5. Read your Bible

This is the most important one. Your bible has all of the answers, no matter the circumstance. If you find yourself unable to cope with the challenges the professor presents to you, open the bible and start reading. God will fill your heart and put your mind at ease.

It's hard enough feeling out of place in today's society, just because of your beliefs. Then to have someone constantly challenging everything you base your life off of? That's even more difficult!

But instead of arguing, choose one of these five things to do. It will be a much better use of your time and you'll feel much better about it than you would by arguing with someone.

Who knows, maybe one day God will touch their heart and things will be different. God's pretty powerful and can change things in an instant. Trust him.

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Finding The Right People To Go Through Life With Makes All The Difference

Life is hard enough, why make it worse by going through it alone?


There are so many things that we go through every day — loss, celebration, success, love — and whether they are good or bad it's hard carrying them alone. In the cases that are good, we want people to share in our joy with us and in cases that are bad, we want people to help us carry the burden so that it's not so bad. Having people in our life makes going through all the things life throws at us that much easier.

Anybody with great friends will tell you that they don't know what they would do without them. They make hard days better and great days more amazing and they are literally God-sent. There is no specific place to find these friends, but you do find them you'll know. You'll hold on tight and never let go. Because those are your people.

Don't make the mistake of choosing "quantity over quality" or of thinking that you don't need anyone else in your life because although that might work for you right now, you'll regret it down the road. Don't forget to appreciate the people you have in your life right now because they are the ones that make this thing called life just a little bit easier.

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