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I'll Never Judge My Children, Or Influence Who They Date

The most important thing is to love your kids for who they are. And to not manage their dating life.

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I will never judge my kids or influence who they date because it is their life. I brought them into this world and I want to see them happy. Being negative to my kids will only make things worse between us.

Being positive and supporting them in everything they do is my job as their mother.

I don't want to be one of those parents that has an exact plan for how my child's life will go, step by step. I felt like this when I was a child, which made me want to do the opposite of everything my parents told me to do. I did dance and joined clubs because my mom wanted me to, but I usually ended up hating it.

I believe that my kids should be able to make their own decisions and make their own mistakes, without my constant negative judgment.

It does not matter what others think of them. There are always going to be those people that hate. Judging someone does not define who they are; it defines who YOU are.

I have seen many families disapprove of someone's partner. The end result would probably be for that person to shut everyone out of their life, and I don't want my kids to feel like they have to do that to me. They would end up becoming miserable and having to keep everything a secret.

There are so many reasons for being told what to do with your love life that makes things complicated for yourself and family. By all means, family is the main priority we look to when having someone new in our life, we go straight to them. What matters most is being with the person you love and feeling carefree. I believe in love and that it is real.

However, guiding them in the right direction is also a good path to take. There is danger in this world so I will guide my children, protect them and discipline them, but I won't judge them. I will always be there for my kids, but I will not control them.

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