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Saying I've Never Had A Boyfriend Is An Insecurity For Me But I'm 22-Years-Old And Extremely Picky

News flash: You're normal!


Being in your 20s is such a weird time. Half of the snapchat stories and Instagram posts that you see are couples from your high school having babies and getting married. They're putting weird little filters on their newborn babies and selfies with their engagement rings. Then there's you're other friends who are blacked out at Midtown and are posting with their boyfriends from Phi Delt and you're sitting there wondering which ones you can relate to the best.

However, if you're anything like me, it's neither! I've never had a boyfriend and I'm a senior in college.

My favorite question that I'm asked when I'm on a date or talking to a guy is "So, how long did you date your last boyfriend?" or another good one "how many guys have you dated in the past?"

Both, great questions and I respond to both of them in a super awkward and stuttery way. Usually something along the lines of "…Well, I haven't had a long-term boyfriend exactly, but I have talked to a few guys! You see, I went to a very small high school… the right person just hasn't come along..."

It's basically me making excuses for the fact that I have never had a long-term or even really a short-term steady boyfriend. I never just say "I've never had a boyfriend," confidentially because it's almost an insecurity for me.

I think to myself, oh I can't let someone know that I've never had a boyfriend. They'll think something is wrong with me or that I'm "un-date-able." Maybe they'll think that there HAS to be some reason that this girl has never seriously dated anyone.

And of course, there is! People lose sight of the reason that they haven't committed themselves to someone yet. It could actually be that the right person hasn't come along, or maybe they're focused on school or maybe they're just picky!

I know many girls and guys who are around my age who have never had a serious significant other either and I'm here to tell you that it is normal. And if you're anything like me, it means you're picky.

I, for one, am a very picky person. Now, this doesn't make me shallow or focused on looks. However, I am picky about a guy's personality and his morals.

Aside from having many single friends, I also have many relationship-driven friends. Some of which are happily in love with their bf/gf and some not so much. Some people have to be in a relationship regardless of if they're happy or not. I think it's a waste of their time and yours, but maybe that's just me.

It's important to remember that you should not be out looking for a relationship. The right one will come when you're least expecting it, at least that's what I'm told.

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