Adjustments: What Happens After You Take That Leap?

Adjustments: What Happens After You Take That Leap?

Here are my thoughts on what it's like to go off to college and then go back home for break.

One aspect of my life that has always differed from that of some of my close friends is that I had lived in the same house in the same town for my entire life, never having left the country or even been on a plane. While I never felt left out because of my lack of experience with travelling and living in different places, I always longed to be able to truly relate to their fascinating stories of the differing cultures and atmospheres that they encountered. I had never had to figure out how to adjust to a completely new place, and always admired those who did and ended up being content. I figured that there would never be a better time to force myself to take a leap than when starting college and I can honestly say that I think that I am stronger and more comfortable with myself after having taken this risk. However, despite what it may feel like in that first August, you will come back to your hometown and think of your house as home once again.

I don't even know how to describe how great it is coming home and being with family after having started a whole other life in a new place. However, it really does bring into focus the feeling that time is always moving forward and there is no way to slow it down. Of course, there will be extensive questioning from family and friends about how you're enjoying your life in a new place. If you're like me, you've come up with some trademark phrases that you use most every time, just to have something coherent to say. This is because most of the feelings brought about by this huge change are almost impossible to put into words. Going back to college after a break is just as confusing as going home. You are often required to seek out things going on that will help you get back in the swing of things as opposed to being automatically included by your family. Doing that is an important life skill, no matter how difficult it can be sometimes.

Coming home for a break may be one of the largest adjustments that college students have to make, because you know that you will have to go back to college soon and are not letting yourself slip out of that life for the few weeks you're away. It is vitally important to find a balance between the two lives that college students live. Going back and forth between them is always going to require big-time adjustment, but being able to successfully bounce between communities is a skill that I have come to value and admire greatly.

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Let's Be Wise Owls In The New Year

Taking time to fly.

As most college students know, there is a month-long break in the middle of the semester used for visiting family and friends, picking up extra hours at work, and most confusingly, taking an entire class within the span of four weeks.

I’ve always struggled with the idea of getting the same amount of credits for a shorter class in an even smaller period of time. Repeatedly have my professors been unable to finish our material due to a lack of time, or false confidence in our class' ability to understand and retain information.

Even worse, I’ve grown into an aging, spiteful Amazon book reseller when my textbooks go unused. If every class was a month long, imagine how many different things we could learn in a shorter period of time (kind of like the way a syllabus is set up, except this time there will be no interruptions).

I know you’re wondering, “what about scheduling?” (cause we’re all sticklers for the rules). My response to that is there’s a reason I’m not working as a Registration Advisor (let the dream live on).

As 2018’s spring semester begins, I reminisce about the activities that filled my time: binge-watching "The Crown," dragging myself to work, spending time with family, jet-setting to London, reading a strange but recommended book of poetry about a princess (google it), and most of all, taking time to relax and breathe.

We all want to be the smartest one in the room, whether it's creatively, academically, or criminally, and taking time to breathe and then dive into the madness is a good thing. Imagine, a robber prioritizing by month when to complete the heist; “January is recon, February is when I’ll land the security guard position, March, I just want to make best employee, so let’s go for the money in April.”

With pacing, prioritizing, and patience, we can influence the course of events from now until December.

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A Letter to My 13 Years Old Self

If you only knew

If there were things I could've told you back then, trust me I would've. Like even though ninth grade might've felt like the worst year of your life, senior year wouldn't turn out to be all that much better. I guess it's true that things always come full circle. I would've told you that you'd get denied from your top choice college, but the one you'd end up in is for a reason. Even though you'll be nervous at first, you'll end up loving it.

There are a lot of things I've learned since I was 13. Like how to love yourself even when everything feels like its going wrong. Also, when you find the right people, surround yourself with them because they'll only encourage you to prosper and bloom into a better person than you were the day before. That even if most of the people in high school kinda (definitely) suck, you'll make amazing new real friends your first week of college.

If I could've told you that the brown-eyed boy with braces you met on Halloween when you were 14 would completely change your life a few years later, I definitely would have. If I could've told you that things can always get worse, no matter how bad they get, I would've until you believed me. Because even if things get bad, or really bad, there's always something better around the bend, you just have to get there.

Things change. A lot. People change, places change, thoughts change, you'll change. Everything changes and sometimes its for the better and sometimes its not, but thats part of the beauty of figuring your life out. Right now, you want to be a journalist or even maybe a zoologist (until your mom told you that was silly, turns out she was right). You hate science and math now, but in a few years you'll be majoring in environmental engineering and even making the Dean's List.

My point of this is that you're going to feel defeated a lot in your life, but every time you'll just come back stronger and conquer more than anyone expected you to. You'll spend your life proving people wrong and surprising them with just how much you can actually accomplish in this little time we have here on Earth. Things will get hard and sometimes you'll fail, but as long as you try again and learn from the experience, you'll always succeed eventually.

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