I Will No Longer Be Silent About My Stance On Transgenders

I Will No Longer Be Silent About My Stance On Transgenders

My rant about one man's ignorant post.

I have to start off with this: I don't normally get political. I keep my views to myself as a safety feature since I know how heated and brutal those conversations can get. The fact that I've even thought of writing this should say how strongly I feel about the ignorance I've seen. If anyone's feelings are "hurt" from this, well, get your facts straight and I won't have to speak up.

The situation that I encountered early the other morning was a Facebook status that a friend had shared from their friend saying this, "ALERT! DANGER! Union county NC parents. Your school system is requiring 3rd graders to read books about transgenderism. These books are designed to not just inform but recruit. Be Who You Are and The Gender Fairy are two titles. Get to your school and let them know your opinion." That, my friends, is a direct quote and all of the status this man gave.

Now, I am not mad he doesn't like transgender people. I am not irritated that he wants parents from my county, in the school system I grew up in, to say how much they don't agree in educating their children about these people and maybe even themselves. I appreciate he used the word "inform" rather than brain wash like most do. What I disagree with, what is misinformation, what made me rage enough to write this was that this man thinks you can recruit someone to be transgender. Being transgender isn't something you just decided one day to spend thousands of dollars to become. First of all, you know that you don't feel comfortable in your own gender for a long while. I have friends who have known since before they even knew what the concept of being transgender was. They were not recruited, it is how they feel and what they already knew before. This is not a new subject, this is not a fad, these are people who all have rights to be happy. Maybe, if you took the time to ask someone who was going through this, or tried to see their side, you would know this is not something they can help. Just like you can't help putting things out on the internet without having all the facts.

Facts like there's nothing out there about the actual implementation of these books in the school systems, and you know the media would have a ball with this. I found things about a Michigan teacher reading to her class about cross dressing, the bathrooms in Charlotte-Mecklenberg schools going against the unjust law put in place. I found suicides because of bullying, but nothing about what this person has said. From his comments, his daughter told him they were doing this at her elementary school. One elementary school out of at least 21 in solely Union County, NC. Instead of causing a panic in the people of your homophobic society, you should take it up with your daughter's school and teacher first and make sure it's not just one person who is teaching your daughter to be accepting of all and have the facts you seem to be missing about a sensitive subject for all communities.

Now for my opinion on the subject straight out. I am a cis, white, heterosexual female. I have seen all sides of this argument and kept mostly to myself till now. I have been yelled at on the internet for not being queer or bisexual, or trans because people on both sides are so angry at what they cannot accept. I have friends who are transgender, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, gay, lesbian, queer, and non-binary. I don't give two shits what you like as long as you're a good person. If you're not a good person, I would never use your sexuality to hurt you. If you respect me, I'll respect you. Simple. I've never understood why it matters to other people what changes they decide to make to their lives. I've never understood the need to shove them into the square we live in when that person is a triangle. We are all people, we all are living with hearts beating. Why is this so hard for you to believe? Why would they need to recruit people to be like them? Are they starting an army??? I just don't understand the intolerance when it has no effect on you. You don't want to understand? Fine, but why do your children have to suffer losing friends because they simply are different? Why? My grandmother didn't like black people, but that didn't stop my father from accepting them.

This rant was never meant to leave my head, but after seeing that post, I knew I had to have my opinion heard somehow.

For the intolerant people: Please tell me why? If it comes down to the Bible, then why does it matter to you if they go to Hell? Are you worried you'll see them there?

For my LGBTQ+ and Allies: Keep going. Get your word out. My silence has been broken, and together with our words and actions, there will be less intolerance one day like there is less racism now. Fight.

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I'm Proud That Transgenders Are Being Protected  In The South

Transgenders are human also!


Having Gender Dysphoria isn't something that we take lightly and it can be a scary thing to deal with. The Transgender Community doesn't need hate on top of the treatments that they are doing through their doctor. The treatments that a Transgender person take will last for the rest of their lives if they continue the transition. I'm so thankful that Tennessee became the first state to implement protections for Transgender people. This is a win for the stereotypes surrounding southern people as well. This shows that southern people can be progressive.

Being Transgender isn't an easy journey for a lot of the community. They have to go through treatments for the rest of their lives and that can be a pain. My Husband, who is transgender, is one of the strongest MEN I know. The fact that Tennesse implemented protections for his community is amazing and inspires us to leave Florida for traveling purposes. This would be the beginning of dissuading people from attacking people because they are who they are. With these protections in place, the next step to continue to educate those who are ignorant. It truly puts a damper on things when they get attacked on top of doing their treatments.

Tennessee doesn't have an exclusive "hate crime" charge but there are factors when sentencing individuals who've committed crimes based on race, religion, color, disability, sexual orientation, national origin, ancestry. They added gender to the list just recently in order to extend protection to those of the transgender community as well as the cisgender community. This is a big win for the community because it adds protects and inspires tolerance. The fact that we keep attacking those based off of physical attributes shows that we are still backward in thinking.

I'm sure the majority of us have an idea of stereotypes surrounding southerners and the south. Most people think we homey, traditionalist and backward folk that drinks sweet tea and eats BBQ every day. Growing up in Florida with my family, I had the best of both worlds. I had a forward-thinking mindset but traditional southern values. The fact that Tennessee being progressive with their protections of the Transgender Community brings the south more into progressive thinking. Mind you, Tennessee has been progressive for a while now but this puts the icing on the cake.

The fact that the south is becoming not the homey traditionalist region that it used to be is a cause for celebration. There are transgenders in every part of this country and we should protect them. They are human and deserve to be 100% themselves. Tennessee doesn't have an exclusive "hate crime" charge but there are factors when sentencing individuals who've committed crimes based on race, religion, color, disability, sexual orientation, national origin, ancestry. It inspires my husband and me to continue to travel in places that he wouldn't be generally accepted and it's a blessing. Traveling to Tennessee is now on my husband and I's bucket list.

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