Ever since you can remember, your mom has always been a big part of your life. She fed you, she took care of you when you were sick, she bought you everything you needed and a lot of things you wanted, and did other motherly things. When you were young, your mom was your "go-to" person. When someone hit you on the playground, she was the first person you ran to for comfort. Your mom has done so much for you. But for some reason, a lot of us lose touch with our friendship with our moms during our teenage years. I can remember thinking that hanging out with my mom wasn't cool or that my friends were more important. But as I grew older, it became very clear; There was no better friend than my mom. As the years went on, my mom and I mended our broken friendship and turned it into something truly beautiful. We are right back where we started. She is my "go-to".
I've seen it happen with my friends and their moms as well so I know this isn't just me. If your mom is your best friend too, then here are 10 things you can probably relate to:
1. She's the first person you call after a bad day
College is overwhelming. It's exhausting. It can be extremely frustrating. It's "the best 4 years of our lives". But good days come and go just like the bad ones. And I don't know if this is just me, but when it rains it pours! It's one thing after another and it usually starts with simple things. For example, maybe the vending machine gave me gatorade when I pressed water (which happens more often than not and they should really fix that) or maybe my car wouldn't start, then I might get a parking ticket, or a disappointing email and slip on ice in front of everyone. Then maybe when my professor starts collecting homework, I'll shake my head, realize we had homework and die a little inside because I didn't do it. I'll roll my eyes when I realize I forgot my gloves and have to walk across campus without them in the bitter cold. And when I finally make it back to my dorm room, I throw my book bag on the ground, take one look around the room and let the tears roll down my face. I let myself cry a little and then I pull myself together enough to call my mom. I immediately begin to tell her all about my awful day. She lets me explain my entire day without interrupting and after I'm done venting, she tells me everything I need to hear. She'll say things like, "Aww, Mols, I'm so sorry to hear you had a bad day" or "Honey, remember what I always say. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time! Take it day by day. You'll be alright". She's the one and only person who can calm me after a hard day and turn my negatives into something very positive. She's my "go-to".
2. She comes to support all of your events
My mom is one of a kind. She has come to all, if not, 99.9% of the events I have participated in since I was old enough to participate in them. She came to my 4th grade play (and I didn't even have a role). She came to my 5th grade choir concert (when practically everyone had a solo except me). She went to every single band concert from 5th grade to 12th grade, which would probably lie somewhere in between 40-60 band concerts, not including the honor band events I did, but she also went to those. She went to all of my middle school track meets, all of my 6th grade basketball games, and she came to every single football and basketball game that I cheered at, even if they were an hour or more away. She even came to my cheerleading banquets. She always went to my events. Now I'm cheering in college and guess what? My mom still comes to my games, nearly 2 hours away. She's always been there to support me in the things I tried and continues to support me in the things I still do. She's my #1 fan.
3. You talk everyday. Even if it's texting
My mom is always texting me and I'm always texting her. We never go a day without talking. Even if it's just good morning and goodnight.
4. You & your mom have a ton of pictures
My mom and I have so many pictures. Just like I do with my other friends, I take a lot of selfies with my mom. She is after all, my greatest friend of all.
5. She is always looking out for you
My mom always comes up for Saturday football and basketball games and afterwords, we usually go out to eat. When she drops me off at my dorm after dinner, she always reminds me to be careful, to be safe and to be smart regardless of my weekend plans. It's nice to know that someone cares enough to remind you of those things.
6. Other people are jealous of your relationship
When you're that close with your mom and she's truly your best friend, other people notice. Some of my closest friends have admitted their jealously, especially my friends who aren't that close with their moms. It feels good to have something that so many other people want!
7. You know she's always right
When I was younger, I never wanted to admit that my mom was always right and she always knew best. I would do things my way until they would crash and burn. Then eventually, I'd realize I should have listened to my mom. But now, I'm not ashamed to admit it. She's always right! Even when I think I'm 99% sure of something, my mom's remaining 1% will still be the right answer.
8. You both enjoy doing nothing together
It doesn't take much for me and my mom to have fun. The only thing we really need is each other. We can be laying on the couch watching Impractical Jokers and laughing until our stomachs hurt or sitting at the table paying bills and filling out paperwork. Whatever we're doing, if we're together, we're having fun.
9. You fight. A lot.
Yes, my mom is my bestie. And yes we do fight! We have everything from petty little arguments to the "I'm not talking to you anymore" fights. I think it's because we are so similar. Also, I think the amount of time we usually spend together can be overwhelming. But, regardless of the types of arguments we have, we always overcome them with ease. Every fight makes us stronger and without fights, we'd never make progress. Fighting, in my opinion, is healthy.
10. You hate going places without her
When I go somewhere, my mom is usually going too. But in May, I'll be traveling to Germany! I'm really excited. However, I also really wish my mom could come and share the experience with me! I'm probably going to feel a little lost, especially being in a different country because I don't even like going to the grocery store without her. But there is one exception to this and that is college. If my mom lived in this shoebox of a dorm room with me, we would kill each other. So college without her is okay :)
The bond between a mother and daughter is something so unique. If your bond is especially strong, cherish every moment of it. Not every daughter gets to call their mom their best friend.
That's my mom. That's my best friend.
