To An Old Friend I Don't Talk To Anymore

To An Old Friend I Don't Talk To Anymore

I am thankful for the way our friendship has faded.

Hey Old Friend,

Remember me? I'm the one you used to eat late night ice cream and binge watch One Tree Hill with.

It seems we haven't spoken much lately. Really, we haven't spoken much since we both went our separate ways in college and promised to stay "close." Well, let me begin by asking how you are. I hope you're doing well at your new school and you're meeting all kinds of interesting people. I hope these people are treating you well and that every dream you've been dying to pursue since you were 10 is actually coming true.

I never thought you would be someone I would consider an "old friend." I understand college came and I moved away and rarely have time to visit home. I also understand that times have changed and both of us have as well. It's just still hard to know that a friendship like ours didn't last like we planned.

We may not be close like we used to. I no longer call you every chance something exciting is happening in life and most times I'll learn of occurrences in your life through Facebook. We have grown apart. Normally that is easy to accept; however, giving that I considered you more like a sister, it does still sting from time to time. I am thankful for the way our friendship has faded. We never tried to hurt one another and I believe we did end on good terms.

With this, I've been wanting to take some time to thank you. To thank you for being there through the good and the ugly. From continuing my cheerleading career to having you around for my first broken heart. You have been there for me when times were not the easiest as I was for you. These are memories I will always cherish.

I want you to know I have no ill feelings towards you and I am not angry with you in any way. I've had the chance to watch you become the person you were destined to be and I am proud of the woman you have become. You have grown more in the past two years than I could've ever imagined.

While our futures may not be like we planned anymore, I will always wish you the absolute best in life. I want you to know I still pray for you every day. I pray that you finish college and find a good job. I pray that you find a man who treats you right and understands the precious cargo he is now protecting.

I know I probably won't get to partake in that special day of yours and see how beautiful you will look; Nevertheless, I do hope it exceeds every expectation you had. I hope that you will only have good things to say about us when you show your children your friends from high school. I hope they too will experience a friendship that was as close as ours used to be. I pray that you keep smiling and never let someone take the fire you have away. I pray you see how truly spectacular you have become and that you never let someone make you feel any less than perfect.

Lastly, I pray one day our paths will cross again. I miss you daily.


Your Old Friend.

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A Thank You To My Best Friend

Because you deserve the world

To my best friend:

Three years ago, when we first hung out, I never expected our friendship to grow into what it is today.

When we first met in dance class, I decided to force my friendship on you, and for that, I am not sorry. In the beginning, I was probably an annoying little pest who was two years younger and just wanted to fit in, but it is 3 years later and I would go back and be twice as annoying if it still meant I get to have you in my life.

When we met, I was going through a transition in my life where I knew it was time to leave behind the old friends in order to grow. I honestly believe God put you in my life to help me leave those friends behind because He knew I needed someone to help me let go.

Because of you, I got to experience so much more of life that I would have never experienced without you. You took me to my first high school party, I got to experience my first taste of college life with you, and you introduced me to my first boyfriend.

You deserve the world, but since I can't give that to you, I want to say thank you for a few things.

Thank you for being insanely weird and quirky.

Thank you for teaching me that it's okay to be who I am and that I don't have to change to be accepted.

Thank you for always making sure I feel included.

Thank you for giving the best advice.

Thank you for telling me what I need to hear and not just what I want to hear.

Most of all THANK YOU for making sure we never grew apart no matter what the distance between us was.

We have never been attached at the hip, but we will always be inseparable.

No one else would ever be able to get me to wake up at 7 just to put out tents, come pick them up to pay rent just because they don't feel like walking to their car, or come over at 12 o'clock at night just because they don't want to spend the night alone. I wouldn't trade our friendship for the world.

Thank you for being you.

And to her boyfriend, you deserve a thank you too. Thank you for not taking my best friend away from me and for letting me crash the relationship every now and again.

I'm so lucky to be able to call y'all my best friends.

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A Letter To The Group Chat Squad

Everyone should have a group chat squad.

Dear Squad,

How are you guys? Even though it has technically been, “long time, no see!”, it never really feels that way.

Though it has been a while since we were able to meet up in person, having a conversation never really feels too far away.

A few weeks after leaving for college, one of my friends from high school added everyone who we were friends with to a single Facebook Messenger group chat. I am glad to say that three years later, the group chat is still going strong.

It is really comforting to know that even though after high school and all of us went to different colleges, I still consider them to be some of my closest friends. I feel that I am really easy to take for granted, that I am still able to talk to my friends from high school. For many, that is not the case.

We can all admit it can be really easy to lose contact with people over time, even if at one time you have considered them to be really close friends. I do believe that having this group chat might be one of the main reasons we all remained so close to each other, even though we all graduated high school so long ago.

I owe a lot to the Facebook Messenger App. I really like the idea how it saves all of the old conversations that we had in the chat. It serves as a really cool time capsule to our past.

Every so often I like to scroll through our past conversations and relive the past. It's pretty cool.

That very first semester away from home, I found a lot of comfort in the group chat. It was really nice to know that even though I was far away from home, I still had someone on my side.

Love, Melanie

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