5 Ways To Be More Positive

5 Ways To Be More Positive

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I think there are many times where life can get tough and sometimes it can be easy to be negative. This negative mindset and attitude can start to creep into every aspect of life and affect your relationships and commitments. But, it can also take a toll on your mental, physical, and emotional health and well-being. So, here are a few tips to make sure that you put these things first and lead a more positive lifestyle.

1. Make time for yourself

As silly as it sounds, making time to do the things you want to do isn’t selfish, but rather it’s necessary. You spend most of your days trying to get work done for other people. So, try to give yourself a little TLC when you’ve earned it. There’s nothing wrong with treating yourself to a reward after working hard. It makes all the drive, ambition, and success worth it if you know it’s going to bring you self-content and happiness. By being a happier version of yourself, you’ll slowly start to realize how that positivity spreads throughout your day in what you’re doing and the people around you.

2. Give more compliments

Spreading positive energy into the world is just as important as feeling positive yourself. Other people go through ups and downs too, so giving compliments or simply checking in on how a person is doing can sometimes make all the difference. I’ve definitely had friends ask me how I’ve been doing or have said something nice to me and have truly brightened my day.

On the flip side, I get satisfaction from being kind to others because it makes me feel like I’m doing something good; it may not be changing the world, but it could be changing someone else’s world. Spreading positivity around you has the reverse effect and power to make you also feel happier.

3. Rather than focusing on the bad, try to turn them into positive actions

This one may be the most difficult thing, for me personally. I think when you’re young, especially, it is so easy to get caught up in emotions and frustration in that moment and not have the ability to get it out of your system. Sometimes things don’t go as planned and can ruin your day. But, I think it has to be a choice about how you chose to deal with negativity or obstacles. Rather than dwelling on the fact that you didn’t do as well on your last exam, take that opportunity to talk to your professor and ask on what it is that you aren’t doing but those that got the higher grades are doing.

There’s always more to learn.

While letting go of anger can be hard, spending all that energy being proactive rather than upset will give you so many more benefits. You’ll realize that eventually things become ok again and life moves on. Do you want to move through life angry or say that you learned, you changed, and you grew in a positive way?

4. Vent

This is a tactic I’d recommend to anyone and everyone. It is the most cathartic way to unpack a stressful situation. Finding a person to vent to, whether that’s a friend or family member, can help put things into perspective. Letting go of the anger is the hardest part, but conquering that can allow you to see that sometimes things aren’t as bad as they seem. Shifting the paradigm can sometimes open your eyes to something totally different. Let go of the negative, decide what to do, then move forward and carry out what you need to do to be happy.

5. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you

It can be so draining when people around you are constantly bringing you down. Whether or not you are a naturally bubbly person, those around you can sometimes shift the way you think and act. You are who you surround yourself with. So, if you don’t like who that is, it might be time to change your circle. Put yourself in a group who you know will accept the negative and help you turn it into positives. Feeding off of other people’s positive and optimistic energy will encourage and support your ability to do the same.

Ultimately, there are many ways to be a more positive person and live a more zealous lifestyle. But, the most important start is with you. So, follow these tips and take positivity into your own hands!

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

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You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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