5 Ways To Be More Positive

5 Ways To Be More Positive

Healthy mind, healthy life.

I think there are many times where life can get tough and sometimes it can be easy to be negative. This negative mindset and attitude can start to creep into every aspect of life and affect your relationships and commitments. But, it can also take a toll on your mental, physical, and emotional health and well-being. So, here are a few tips to make sure that you put these things first and lead a more positive lifestyle.

1. Make time for yourself

As silly as it sounds, making time to do the things you want to do isn’t selfish, but rather it’s necessary. You spend most of your days trying to get work done for other people. So, try to give yourself a little TLC when you’ve earned it. There’s nothing wrong with treating yourself to a reward after working hard. It makes all the drive, ambition, and success worth it if you know it’s going to bring you self-content and happiness. By being a happier version of yourself, you’ll slowly start to realize how that positivity spreads throughout your day in what you’re doing and the people around you.

2. Give more compliments

Spreading positive energy into the world is just as important as feeling positive yourself. Other people go through ups and downs too, so giving compliments or simply checking in on how a person is doing can sometimes make all the difference. I’ve definitely had friends ask me how I’ve been doing or have said something nice to me and have truly brightened my day.

On the flip side, I get satisfaction from being kind to others because it makes me feel like I’m doing something good; it may not be changing the world, but it could be changing someone else’s world. Spreading positivity around you has the reverse effect and power to make you also feel happier.

3. Rather than focusing on the bad, try to turn them into positive actions

This one may be the most difficult thing, for me personally. I think when you’re young, especially, it is so easy to get caught up in emotions and frustration in that moment and not have the ability to get it out of your system. Sometimes things don’t go as planned and can ruin your day. But, I think it has to be a choice about how you chose to deal with negativity or obstacles. Rather than dwelling on the fact that you didn’t do as well on your last exam, take that opportunity to talk to your professor and ask on what it is that you aren’t doing but those that got the higher grades are doing.

There’s always more to learn.

While letting go of anger can be hard, spending all that energy being proactive rather than upset will give you so many more benefits. You’ll realize that eventually things become ok again and life moves on. Do you want to move through life angry or say that you learned, you changed, and you grew in a positive way?

4. Vent

This is a tactic I’d recommend to anyone and everyone. It is the most cathartic way to unpack a stressful situation. Finding a person to vent to, whether that’s a friend or family member, can help put things into perspective. Letting go of the anger is the hardest part, but conquering that can allow you to see that sometimes things aren’t as bad as they seem. Shifting the paradigm can sometimes open your eyes to something totally different. Let go of the negative, decide what to do, then move forward and carry out what you need to do to be happy.

5. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you

It can be so draining when people around you are constantly bringing you down. Whether or not you are a naturally bubbly person, those around you can sometimes shift the way you think and act. You are who you surround yourself with. So, if you don’t like who that is, it might be time to change your circle. Put yourself in a group who you know will accept the negative and help you turn it into positives. Feeding off of other people’s positive and optimistic energy will encourage and support your ability to do the same.

Ultimately, there are many ways to be a more positive person and live a more zealous lifestyle. But, the most important start is with you. So, follow these tips and take positivity into your own hands!

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To The Person Who Feels Suicidal But Doesn't Want To Die

Suicidal thoughts are not black and white.

Everyone assumes that if you have suicidal thoughts that means you want to die.

From an outside perspective, suicidal thoughts are rarely looked into deeper than the surface level. Either you have suicidal thoughts and you want to die, or you don't have suicidal thoughts and you want to live. What most people don't understand is that people live in between those two statements, I for one am one of them.

I've had suicidal thoughts since I was a kid.

My first recollection of it was when I came home after school one day and got in trouble, and while I was just sitting in the dining room I kept thinking, “I wonder what it would be like to take a knife from the kitchen and just shove it into my stomach." I didn't want to die, or even hurt myself for that matter. But those thoughts haven't stopped since.

I've thought about going into the bathroom and taking every single pill I could find and just drifting to sleep and never waking back up, I've thought about hurting myself to take the pain away, just a few days ago on my way to work I thought about driving my car straight into a tree. But I didn't. Why? Because even though that urge was so strong, I didn't want to die. I still don't, I don't want my life to end.

I don't think I've ever told anyone about these feelings. I don't want others to worry because the first thing anyone thinks when you tell them you have thoughts about hurting or killing yourself is that you're absolutely going to do it and they begin to panic. Yes, I have suicidal thoughts, but I don't want to die.

It's a confusing feeling, it's a scary feeling.

When the depression takes over you feel like you aren't in control. It's like you're drowning.

Every bad memory, every single thing that hurt you, every bad thing you've ever done comes back and grabs you by the ankle and drags you back under the water just as you're about the reach the surface. It's suffocating and not being able to do anything about it.

The hardest part is you never know when these thoughts are going to come. Some days you're just so happy and can't believe how good your life is, and the very next day you could be alone in a dark room unable to see because of the tears welling up in your eyes and thinking you'd be better off dead.

You feel alone, you feel like a burden to everyone around you, you feel like the world would be better off without you. I wish it was something I could just turn off but I can't, no matter how hard I try.

These feelings come in waves.

It feels like you're swimming and the sun is shining and you're having a great time until a wave comes and sucks you under into the darkness of the water. No matter how hard you try to reach the surface again a new wave comes and hits you back under again, and again, and again.

And then it just stops.

But you never know when the next wave is going to come. You never know when you're going to be sucked back under.

I always wondered if I was the only one like this.

It didn't make any sense to me, how did I think about suicide so often but not want to die? But I was thinking about it in black and white, I thought I wasn't allowed to have those feelings since I wasn't going to act on them. But then I read articles much like this one and I realized I'm not the only one. Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, and my feelings are valid.

To everyone who feels this way, you aren't alone.

I thought I was for the longest time, I thought I was the only one who felt this way and I didn't understand how I could feel this way. But please, I implore you to talk to someone, anyone, about the way you're feeling, whether it be a family member, significant other, a friend, a therapist.

My biggest mistake all these years was never telling anyone how I feel in fear that they would either brush me off because “who could be suicidal but not want to die?" or panic and try to commit me to a hospital or something. Writing this article has been the greatest feeling of relief I've felt in a long time, talking about it helps. I know it's scary to tell people how you're feeling, but you're not alone and you don't have to go through this alone.

Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, your feelings are valid, and there are people here for you. You are not alone.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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The Nike Controversy that Makes no Sense

Nike has been facing backlash recently, for reasons I just cannot understand.


Nike recently released a plus sized workout clothing line, equipped with beautiful plus size mannequins to advertise their brand. Instead of many in the fitness community rejoicing in this milestone, Nike is facing criticism because people believe that Nike is portraying unhealthy weight standards to their customers.

These individuals believe that the size that is portrayed by Nike's mannequins is obese, and as a result, is telling others that being a size like that is okay. Yet, the mannequins that are usually portrayed in Nike's stores, rarely represent body types of real people.

As I read these comments, I thought to myself – are these people crazy? Think about the men and women who have spent months, maybe even years, trying to lose enough weight just to fit into Nike's plus sized brand! As well, bigger women deserve clothes to work out in. It should not matter if they are "obese" they are working towards a healthier lifestyle.

The backlash being faced by Nike is the mentality that prevents many from even joining a gym. I can completely understand the fear an individual experiences when entering the gym, surrounded by people who look like fitness gods, and you feel like everybody is judging you. As if you do not belong in a gym.

I will never understand how creating more barriers for individuals will motivate others to exercise. In my own opinion, attractive workout clothes are more than enough to motivate me to get to the gym!

Do not let the mentality of fat-shaming, and others fear of a little jiggle prevent you from flaunting Nike's new style, and creating a healthier lifestyle for you

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