I took myself out on a date.
Dating yourself should be the latest trend. When is the last time you spoiled yourself? Pampered you??? Dated you??? How can someone else treat you, if you can’t treat yourself? How can someone else love to spend time with you if you do not want to spend time with yourself?
With two young kids, I look forward to having ANY time to myself. Often times my only place of solitude is in the bathroom.
I was so excited when I saw the trailer for “Bad Moms”. I immediately asked myself out and of course, I replied yes… I told my husband, I am taking myself out to dinner and a movie. You have the kids. He smiled and agreed.
I went out and got my nails and feet treated, pampered and polished. Then I went out and got a new outfit. The next day, I went to go see “Bad Moms” I laughed all the way thru the movie. It was hilarious. Then I went out to eat alone.
IT WAS A PERFECT EVENING… No meaningless conversation, no nervousness, no one said or did anything to ruin the night. I chuckled to myself people watching. I got a chance to do a lot of thinking. I felt so rejuvenated when I got home. The house was spotless; kids were bathed, fed and asleep. I was in a wondrous bliss.
Until, I told my friends about my wonderful evening…they were all confused and made fun of it. They said it sounded lonely and sad. It really made me think. Why don’t people go out alone anymore? Whatever happened to some quality alone time? Especially to Moms and wives out there, alone time is like a rare gem or jewel. It should be cherished.
According to an article written by Dr. Sherri B. Carter for psychology today, “By spending time with yourself and gaining a better understanding of who you are and what you desire in life, you're more likely to make better choices about who you want to be around. You also may come to appreciate your relationships more after you've spent some time alone. Any time that you can spend alone with yourself to reboot, meditate, focus, relax, create, produce, and/or think deeply is better than no time”.
Wives and Moms it is ok to just be to yourself and be by yourself and enjoy a little “me” time or a me moment. Even if you cannot get out of the house for a full on self date night go to your bathroom run a hot bubble bath with some candles and just try and relax for a few minutes. Alone time is growing time. It is a time to heal, rejuvenate and for once not have to be constantly “on” or constantly thinking, doing, planning and moving.
Ladies get your “me” on!
(Source: Heather Headley, 2006 "Me Time")
