​10 Things Every Person Should Do Alone At Least Once In Their Life

​10 Things Every Person Should Do Alone At Least Once In Their Life

Table for one, please!
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We're all guilty of wanting company every time we go out to eat or do something as simple as running errands. It can feel scary doing things on your own (and maybe even a little embarrassing), but I'm here to tell you that there's a certain confidence you gain when you do things by yourself. Despite what society may think, it's not socially unacceptable. A lot of people brag about being independent, but can you really say you are if you don't know how to do things on your own?

Here are a few activities that every person should do alone at least once in their life:

1. Go to the movies

Two-and-a-half hours of alone time just flies by when you've got an ice slushy, a tub of buttery popcorn and some ice cream bits to munch on. (Yes, that's what I do. I see you judging me.)

Going to the movies by yourself is the best icebreaker if you really want to do things alone and feel comfortable doing it. The big screen, the loudspeakers and the (hopefully) engaging movie plot, will distract you from being hyper-aware that your flying solo this time.

2. Eat at a restaurant

There's nothing more awkward than saying, "Table for one, please." That is—at first. It's nice to have a meal in silence every once in awhile. Just sit down, appreciate your food, and stop thinking about what others will think of you. Eating alone feels totally liberating. It takes a lot of confidence to feel comfortable and at ease doing it so once you master this, you've mastered the art of independence.

3. Cook for yourself

Whip up a delicious home-cooked meal for yourself. If you don't know how to cook a dish, now's the time to learn! Use the nice china and the formal dining room, and light some candles while you're at it. Then play some music while you eat, or play a movie you've been wanting to stream. Some wine helps, too!

5. Wander around a music festival alone

I know this doesn't sound like the safest thing to do so use your discretion, but one of the most freeing moments of my life was when I sang and danced to Florence and the Machine's "Shake It Out," barefoot, at the Coachella Music Festival, all by myself. It was amazing. I felt free as a fairy.

6. Go shopping

Shopping with friends is one of the funnest things to do, but it's also really nice to have some alone time when you're picking out a new wardrobe or trying to decide which makeup products to buy. You can take your sweet time browsing through every nook and cranny of a store without anyone rushing you!

This even applies to grocery shopping. You can carry that jug of milk! You can carry that watermelon back to your car! You can find a way to reach that brownie mix on the highest shelf! (Or you can ask for help, too.)

7. Exercise

It can feel really awkward going to the gym by yourself. That's why I don't. Just kidding. But not really. Instead, I choose to do yoga and pilates by myself. While it can feel a little odd when everyone else in the room has a buddy with them, there's no better way to meditate and focus than by being alone. As for going to the gym alone; it's do-able! As long as you've got your headphones on and a device that plays music, you're good to go.

8. Volunteer

I volunteer at my local no-kill animal shelter every week and not only is it really therapeutic (I get to pet dogs the whole time!), it's also for a really good cause. Find a charity or a movement that means something to you. Take an hour every week and devote your time to it. It's good for you and it'll be good for society, too.

9. Set up a spa day

"Treat yo self!" You deserve some tender, loving and care. Get a facial, a massage or both, then hop in the sauna and steam room for some relaxation time. While this activity is also fun to do with friends, you get so much more time to center yourself when you relax in peace and quiet.

10. Travel

This is the only thing on this list that I've yet to do but I intend to. This doesn't mean you have to travel in a different country alone. You can start small. Travel by yourself to a different town or state, and find out where the local favorites are. Make sure to stay safe, of course, but also make sure to embrace the whole experience!


Doing things by yourself is healthy and totally acceptable. Don't feel like a social pariah when you're out alone. Embrace it. Love it. Be confident doing it. That's what independence is all about!

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To The Senior Graduating High School In A Month

"What feels like the end, is often the beginning."
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It wasn’t too long ago that I was in your shoes. Just a little over a year ago, I was the senior that had a month left. One month left in the hometown that I grew up in. One month left with the friends that I didn’t want to leave. One month left in the place that I had called “my school” for the past four years. You are probably thinking the same things I thought whenever it came down to only 30 days left. You’re probably scared, nervous, worried, or anxious. Maybe you’re like me and are dying to get out of high school, ready to start a new chapter. Or maybe you aren’t so ready yet. Maybe you’re wishing for a little more time.

As scary as it is, this month you have left will fly by. You’ll blink and you’ll be standing in your cap and gown, waiting for your name to be called to receive your diploma. You’ll look back on your last four years at your school and wonder why time went by so fast. It’ll be bittersweet. However, trust me when I say that you have so much to look forward to. You are about to begin taking the steps to build your future. You are going to grow and learn so much more than any high school class could teach you. You are going to meet amazing people and accomplish amazing things. So, as scared as you might be, I encourage you to take that first step out of your comfort zone and face this world head on. Chase your dreams and work towards your goals. You are smart. You are brave. You are capable of achieving amazing things. All your life, the lessons you have learned have prepared you for this point in your life. You are more than ready.

There are times when you will feel alone, scared, or confused. There are times when it won’t always be easy. But those are the times when you will shine the most because I know you will work through whatever problems you may face. Don’t think of the bad times as a terrible thing. Use them all as learning experiences. As author Joshua Marine once said, “Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.”

You might think that this is the end. However, it’s not. This is only the beginning. Trust me when I say that the adventures and opportunities you are about to face are nothing compared to high school. Whether you are going to college, going to work, or something else, this is the beginning of your journey called life. It will be exciting, it will be terrifying, but it will all be worth it.

So, as you walk out of your high school for the very last time, I encourage you to take a deep breath. Relax. You’ll always have the memories to look back on from high school. But your time is now, it begins today. Embrace it.

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Social Media Can Bridge The Gap Of Communication Between The Two Genders

We have small devices hidden in the back pockets of our jeans that give us access to billions of users across the Internet, and all it takes is one post to spark a revolution.

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You spend time at least once a week going through your social feed. You even spend time once a day going through your social feed.

There is a power in the words you speak and post online, and these very words can impact others' lives, negatively or positively. As an example, according to the Huffington Post, women are met with being "…ignored, trivialized, or criticized by men…" online mainly because the rift between the two genders prevents proper communication.

Gender equality can be achieved by online engagement, or posting. In some cases, though, the opposite can be true. I personally love Instagram and will occasionally find myself scrolling through posts recommended by the platform itself simply so I can waste time and complain about that later. A few weeks ago, I happened to be relapsing into my Instagram addiction and found myself particularly drawn to a certain post by Rowan Blanchard, which had a caption reading that "Cis men are violent and dangerous and until numbers prove [her] wrong [she] won't be able to not make statements that can't be read as vague."

Now, MSNBC identifies activism today as "…easier than ever…" thanks to social media, with "…[facilitated] public dialogues and… a platform for awareness…," but the caption of Blanchard's post shown is not activism at its finest. In a brief synopsis, activist Rowan Blanchard, who you may know from the show "Girl Meets World," addresses her distaste for men, going so far as to generalizing them as dangerous. In my opinion, this is one step backward in the fight for equality rather than a step forward.

Men and women alike have our differences that we consistently brush over in angry online comments but never truly sit down and discuss. The presence of a civil conversation between members of opposing sides of the gender argument is astonishing, and I myself have never seen one online. These conversations act like haunting illusions of a future we can only dream of, as if such a situation is purely unattainable otherwise.

We fawn over the thought, calling ourselves servants at the hands of a society where men and women can join each other and claim that there is no reason to feel unequal. The idea is breathtaking, and the friendships between men and women would be endless. Unfortunately, modern-day social media displays misogyny, misandry, animosity and all forms of verbal destruction against both genders that I feel sorry to merely acknowledge.

Before I took a break from being active on social media, I used Instagram to showcase my thoughts on these issues. I found it compelling to have an audience of my close friends and acquaintances listening as I explained and rationalized about online sexism repeatedly.

Occasionally, the topic sparked up friendly conversation about disagreements, and being honest, I felt threatened by how unthreatening the discussion was. It was as if I was asking for a reason to feel angry, to feel offended, but I instead was met with the harsh reality that social media can allow engagement in normal conversation.

The culture that revolves around online discussion is brash and led by emotion rather than by statistics, and while Blanchard may claim that she wants precise statistics before she alters her position against men, many online still fail to recognize the validity of such numbers. Her use of a hasty generalization clearly shows the lack of structure within her argument; I may be solely pointing her out, but her rationale stands as an example of the obstacles we face in the path to gender equality.

MSNBC used Twitter demographics to explain the impact of current events revolving around gender debates on the amount of discussion about sexism, and the results show that social media holds power. It holds hope and determination and serves as a pathway to a society where we may be able to hold hands and know we have no fear of being inferior to one another. Our generation is accustomed to seeing this magnitude of a response online, but when imagining every person who tweeted about this, there is potential change that we can visualize.

We have small devices hidden in the back pockets of our jeans that give us access to billions of users across the Internet, and all it takes is one post online to go viral. Within minutes, we can reach out to hundreds or thousands of people, updating them about our lives. With the ability to contact an enormous number of people, the only question you are left to ask yourself is, "How will you bring about a positive change to social equality?"

Your response to this question is being awaited every moment of your life.

Disclaimer: Please note that this has been a speech previously submitted as an assignment in a class.

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