Being in love in today's time is difficult. There's rampant cheating, ghosting and one-night stands. It is a surprise that any relationships last till marriage. Most people have adapted to these ways, but there are a few who still hold out hope of chivalry and true love. For those who are hopeless romantics, every time a relationship doesn't work out, it is another notch taken out of the heart. In today's time, being a romantic is a constant struggle.
1. Hook-up culture
Some people debate on whether we are actually in a hook-up age, but the truth is we are. Hollywood is probably to blame, along with the deep-seeded "I want what I want and I want it now" mentality that 99 percent of the population has, whether they will admit it or not. That mentality isn't anything to be ashamed of, especially since hopeless romantics have it too. They just have the "I want to settle down" mentality that is vastly different mindset than those who just want to have an endless stream of one-night stands.
2. People use you
Unfortunately, this is one of the worst things about dating in today's world. Hopeless romantics have so much love to give that it is really easy for people to use them. With a simple bat of the eyes, a romantic will bend backwards and sideways just to make their partner happy. Unfortunately, not everyone has such pure intentions like those romantics do.
3. Compromise, compromise, compromise
In order to fully prove to the person they are dating that they aren't like the others, romantics are willing to change who they are and how they act. Once the relationship ends (and it probably will if only one side is compromising), the romantic won't even know who they are anymore. Hopelessly devoted as usual.
4. Pinterest has the next decade mapped out for you
The joys of being a modern day romantic means they (and pretty much every girl) have everything mapped out. From the wedding ring to the centerpieces of the reception tables, there is nothing these Pinners haven't planned for. And of course there's that useless board filled to the brim with love quotes. Is it embarrassing? Maybe, but how many people know what do to in the case of rain on the wedding day? The one thing it doesn't have is Mr. or Mrs. Right.
5. You constantly question if you are the problem
Being a hopeless romantic is hard. Whenever a relationship doesn't work out, you always question if your ex really was the problem, or if there is something wrong with you. Your friends have tried and tried to convince you that you aren't the problem, but there's that sneaking suspicion in the back of your mind.
6. You don't understand why people act the way they do
"You mean you had to ask your ex for back scratches?" "Wait, he complained that you wanted to cook rather than go out?" The horror stories you hear from your friends and love interests will never cease to amaze you because half of the things they complain about, you would just do. Its not difficult to simply show the person you're with love, but that chivalry died a long time ago among the general public.
7. Waiting for that "One Day"
One day. One day someone will make you feel like you deserve. One day you will get married. One day you will have a ton of pretty babies and it will be all good. But that one day hasn't come yet and every person that stands between you and the "one" makes falling in love a little harder each time. But you still fall in love.
Being a hopeless romantic is hard in today's time, but most of us wouldn't have it any other way. Sure, we fall in love all too easily and perhaps far too often, but no one can ever say we didn't try. Just because someone can't see your worth doesn't make you worth any less. Love yourself and eventually you will find the one you were meant to be with. Till then, you still love yourself and that's all you will ever need.
