We are a generation known as the millennial's. There has been the good and the bad that our generation receives. Many people say we don't really know hard work, but they say we are all social media savy. So with the good comes the bad as well. But one thing that I think we need to change is how we look at relationships. There are quite a few points I will make so stick with me!
I will be the first to say that I have been single for a long time and I really learned how to be independent and learn how to be alone. Which I believe is extremely important for yourself and for future relationships. But for many of us we hop from one guy to the next. We use them like lily pads, leaping from one hopeful to another. Alone time is one of the most important assets I think we can have. But we don't want to understand what alone time is. We want to always have someone. I get it, I really do. Its hard to be alone and to sit with yourself, but instead of a guy try spending time with a friend you are able to talk with. Learn your way around being alone, so you can fully embrace and enjoy a relationship.
The next thing that I have noticed is that no one works hard. Well, that is when it comes to a relationship. When it comes to our careers we put full focus in, but I think that when it comes to relationships we can tend to put them on the back burners. If you want to know what hard work is you have to factor in time management as well, because you will be able to maintain a successful career and a happy and healthy relationship.
Another thing is that when the going gets tough we all get going. This goes hand in hand with hard work. You get in one fight and suddenly we all throw in the towel. STOP. That is absurd, why are you quitting after one fight or one argument? Fighting is what can make a relationship stronger. But for some reason all we want to do is throw in the towel the second things get a little bit hard. Learn to stick it out and learn about the importance of communication because it can make or break any relationship.
We are also deemed as the "hook up" generation. Which I honestly hope changes at some point. When you hook up with someone you let them into your whole self and there is nothing to hide. But it can also lead to being hurt. Sure it can lead to a relationship, but it still leaves you at risk for being hurt.
We have many good and bad things about our generation. I say we should make our relationships a big and important thing in our lives. Get off Tinder, Bumble and Match.com and look up and you never know what you will find. Could be your soulmate looking right at you all along.
