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Are Men The Only Ones Who Cheat?

Both men and women cheat, but for different reasons. Right or wrong?

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Are Men The Only Ones Who Cheat?

Cheating. Overrated or underrated? They say women cheat just as much as men do. They also say that men and women cheat for different reasons. My thoughts on the topic are complicated, but I feel the need to discuss it. They say women cheat on the basis of emotional need and distress. As a female, in general, I can relate to the fact that women can be emotional. Whatever the reasoning may be, it is said that women cheat out of loneliness and the need for special attention.

In the case of men, they say men are more different in their actions from women. Unlike women, and disregarding the facts, reality has shown me that men tend to live on the less emotional side. Most women believe that whether men are happy or not with their relationship, they will still cheat. Hmm. Is there some truth to this ladies?

They say men are designed to cheat as if being faithful to one individual is THAT difficult? I think not. Regardless of the many thoughts and opinions focused on the topic, I stand neutral. I agree that women are capable of cheating as much as men, although they may do it for differing reasons. I also agree that when men do cheat, it is more-or-so on the basis of “just doing it” with less to no emotion. It is a matter of sexual desires. It's human nature!

As a female, I stand firm in revealing that I have been a part of the cheating population before when I was in my relationship in high school—yes, high school. My reasons? I had not one decent excuse except for the mere fact that my boyfriend was blatantly cheating on me every time we weren't together. I was blinded by what I thought was “love,” while all of my friends hated the guy. Was that decent enough? "Why are you still with him," they asked. I thought it was love, but even up to this very day I know that it wasn't love. It was just an experience I had never experienced before and the first time I felt that sense of “love,” or that is what I assumed. My boyfriend in high school cheated on me so many times that I lost count. With that being said, I started cheating.

You see, people can and do cheat for various, differing reasons. I do not condone the cheating population, but I have been a part of it before so I do not judge. It may be cliche of me to say "everything happens for a reason” or that people do everything for a “reason,” but in the case of cheating, I have also learned that sometimes, there will not be a reason... or is there?

In today’s world, there are many different groups of relationships...ranging from monogamous, open and swingers. Cheating should not be accepted, but rather acknowledged for the facts. Cheating can stem from a simple sexual desire, honestly. I say that with experience. I am open with this topic because this is just a small portion of what made me into the young woman I am today.

Raise your hand if you have ever cheated on your significant other, married or not. I can almost bet my last dollar that the majority of men AND women reading this article has contributed to the cheating population at least once. Honestly, and sad to say it, cheating is a part of human nature. Some of you may disagree, but my opinion stands firm.

Lets focus on women for a second.

According to varying statistics and surveys on the topic, women cheat on the basis of acquiring romance, seeking emotional fulfillment, and chasing false happiness and self-esteem. When a relationship or marriage is experiencing the blues, whether it is financial, losing a child, or a good friend of the family, or infidelity, women tend to get more emotionally affected than men, causing them to seek this happiness that is no longer present in the home [at the moment that is]. Women tend to run away from themselves. The way we live our lives as women and the way we view ourselves can cause us to do some extremely crazy things. I know not only from experience, but from standing as a witness to society. Immaturity plays a huge part as well. In order to maintain a strong relationship mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and so forth, there must be a presence of maturity and a strong sense of communication. As women, we “act out” sometimes when we feel like our significant others are not as attracted to us, or lack showing a sense of compassion, or even no longer feel the comfort, etc. Communication within relationships is not only imperative in its nature, but also because communication is a huge factor intimacy and deeply-rooted connections.

When my boyfriend began cheating on me in high school, I did not know how to feel, but embarrassed. I remember being so embarrassed that I never told my mother nor my friends. At the time, I felt like the only thing I could do was “get back at him” to let him know females [do it TOO]. Childish right? Looking for passion outside of an already established relationships can serve as a huge risk...my short-lived solution to my relationship problems at the time. I cheated as an excuse. Let's be real. I had the opportunity to fix things, I had the option to no longer proceed with my cheating, but my mindset was not mature enough to understand that taking such risks can only lead to more dangerous consequences within the relationship and/or marriage. As women, we must learn and realize that if chasing happiness is what you really want, then chase it WITHIN. Happiness can be found within ourselves, not within other people.

Now, let's discuss men for a brief moment.

What defines cheating? A kiss? sex? Both? In today's world, men seem to have this idea of what the term "cheating" means. While women can be more emotionally involved, men just tend to like the idea of multiple women, acquiring power and control, and the fact that it has simply been done before and they have "gotten away with it." Even if a man is deeply in love with his woman, plans to marry her and spend the rest of his life with her, that man is still capable of cheating because of the desire of variety and [new] women. What do you guys think about this? Where's the truth? Power and control is extremely important for men. They have to always feel lie they are in constant control of things, whether it is their career or relationship. No? Emotion is a huge thing for women, while men tend to stray away from their emotional side.


Cheating is worldwide and occurs every day, but that does not mean it is okay, nor do I condone it. The point is to realize that both men and women cheat, and for different reasons. Sad to say it, but even the "good" ones cheat too. I'm still young and have a lot of life ahead of me, but I have had some life experiences where I can relate to the topics that I decide to write on. I want to reach out to my audience, I want to cater to them and their reading needs. After reading this article, I can bet almost all of you thought about a time you attempted to cheat or was successful in doing so. I'm just speaking facts and experiences. Be wise in your decision-making.

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