I have seen for some time on social media that ladies have been asking where they can find a “good man” at. Well ladies, I’m here to answer your million dollar question for you. It has been told that the person you would eventually fall in love with is the person you least expected. Like a close friend -- or that guy that sits in the back of your high school classroom watching your every move (Stalking? Yes, but you fall for him anyway). A new thing has been invented, by whom I do not know, and will not put the blame on women, but the device that has been invented is called the friend zone.
Yes! The friend zone. Now, most will disagree that this is not true, but coming from personal experience, not just as a guy but as a person. The friend zone is indeed true, but am I saying that the friend zone shouldn’t exist? No, I’m not saying that it should. I think it’s a good way to separate your guy friends from the that ‘special’ guy in your life, but let me explain why I think a man should be that special guy, and not the boys.
First, when a Man has a conversation with you. Notice how he always pays attention and never examines the rest of your body, for example looking at your chest. See, a boy will have a conversation with you, but he only wants to analyze you for his next “conquest.” Now, don’t get me wrong, I too was like this once, but I grew up. See, most women think that all guys just want one thing from them. Well, that’s not entirely true. A man wants someone that can support them in their dreams and life, and yes, they have to do the same for you. While a boy only wants sexual things from women, if you are able (and you are!) to identify the difference, then maybe you can find you a “good man.”
Another thing I notice about some women, is that you see men as weak. Again, I said some, not all. Usually, the guys you put in the friend zone are sometimes consider weak and unworthy of your time. Now, I give you the utmost respect that you as a person respect yourself, but don’t go around thinking that every guy is going to kneel at your beck and call, because to be honest, if we do, we’re considered to be the weak ones.
You will instead continuing getting the attention of boys, as they feel they need to show dominance over women. I see that some girls like a guy that shows dominance, but does hitting here justify that dominance? No, it doesn’t, but that's what some women choose. Now, understand that I’m not attacking you. I’m just trying to explain to why it is so hard to find a “good man” in today’s age.
Now, men can be deceiving, but again, you can identify this, like that 90-day rule that was established so long ago. There’s nothing wrong with keeping someone from holding out. Have them prove to you that they are about the relationship and not about the sex.
See, when it comes to comparing a man to a boy, they can come in all kinds of shapes and sizes. Don’t go looking for a man that is well groomed, and wears suit and ties, or the ones that like to wear the pants past their butts (that’s called being childish). Instead, look for a guy that really wants to know you as a person, and not as an objective. Look for the guy that will inspire to accomplish your goal, no matter how silly, lame, or irrelevant it is. These are the men you should be looking for. Someone that won’t tell you how beautiful you are, because that’s something you should already know, and a men shouldn’t have to tell you something that you already know, right? They should always be there to listen to your problems, and for you to listen to his. Let them show you how it is to be loved so you can return that same love to them.
I will be doing another article called “Women vs. Girls” next week. So tune into Odyssey for that one.
