Meet The Parents!
It is that time of year again, and it means go time.
Meeting the parents can be interesting to say the least however, it doesn’t always have to end horrible. Many millennials actually hate meeting parents and, as it turns out, parents don’t want to meet someone that doesn’t want to meet them. Respecting your elders is very important to remember at this moment. A key guideline to keep in mind is respect. A simple way of showing respect that many seem to forget, is putting the phone away. Yes, I mean the thing that is already in your hand. Being on cellphones can come off as very disrespectful and can actually make many parents uncomfortable as they sit across the table looking at someone whom is staring at their lap... Looking someone in the eye can make all the difference when it comes to polite mannerisms and active communication.
Parents aren’t all out to get you, and you can learn a lot from them, even if they are not your own. If you really think about it, parents have lived the life you are currently living and may have a lot more in common with you than they’d like to admit. (The 60’s happened after all). Say what you want, and listen to what they tell. Asking questions is not crime, and can show that you are interested in their background as well. Allow your conversations to flow smoothly, and when it comes to an awkward silence discuss the person that allowed you both to meet. Even mention education in your conversations, being intelligent is nothing to be ashamed of.
It is extremely important to remember that parents raised someone who is out there functioning in the real world. Although not every parent is perfect, they all have their strengths. While telling parents about yourself do not get out of line. You would not want to tell a parent something you wouldn’t want to tell your teacher, grandparent, or your own parent.
Yes that “I’m a cool mom” claim may very well be true however, everyone has boundaries that are not always meant to be crossed. The initial meeting of one's parents is the time to break the ice thus, your personality is not allowed to crack in any way, shape, or form. Meeting parents can be compared to your first date which either goes no where, goes well, or leaves you hanging. And this first date, can not be won over with flowers…at least not for Dad.
Try to relax. A stressed out mood can easily be noticed. If you pretend to be someone you are not, you will never have a true relationship with ones parents. You do not need to be anyone’s best friend, but if you can gain a mutual healthy relationship then kudos to you. Having adults on your side is not something anyone complains about-- ever. The best way to meet parents who you do not know, is to be yourself.
