Why You Should Marry The Marching Band Kid

Why You Should Marry The Marching Band Kid

Marching band and relationships have more in common than you may think.

There are few groups of people in this world who I personally believe are always "good." And marching band kids are one of them.

Marching band kids are really good at taking direction.

It is our job to make sure we are in charge of our spot on the field. If we mess up, there is the potential for injury. Not only that, but when you get into a band that has over four-hundred people in it there is no way the director is going to be able to put each and every person in their spot for every set.

When we're married, it's going to help because we're not going to have to be told to take the trash out or put some clothes through the wash. We're going to see that it needs to be done and then we'll do it.

We're not the type to give up.

If you've ever been outside in 100+ degree heat and been able to march/walk/run several miles, then you know what it means to really push through. We marching in severe heat, snow, rain, and everything in-between. There's not much that we won't do to figure out how to get something done, and get it right. "Practice makes perfect" is not our mantra, "perfect practice makes perfect" is how we roll.

Mark time calves.

Depending on how your school does mark time, your significant other is going to have the best calves you've ever seen. There's no way around it! To keep your upper body still there are a lot of legs involved. Especially when we rep something over and over again.

We are severely punctual.

Here is my thought process as a college marching kid:

"Ok, call time is five hours before kickoff, so that means I need to be on the field at 8am with the clarinets. That means I need to park my car at least fifteen to twenty minutes beforehand. To be there that early I need to pick up my carpool about twenty minutes before that, so I need to wake up around 6:50am to be able to eat some breakfast and drink water before it gets hot out and I dehydrate myself. So the 8:30a. band call means waking up just over an hour early."

After talking to many fellow marching friends, I am certain that at least 90% of the band has this same thought process. "Be early to the call, which means be earlier than that."

You're going to have the best wedding ever.

I've heard many stories from friends, family, and family friends that they managed to get friends to come play live songs for them. If they met in college, sometimes they even get a pep band to come and play some school songs. It's just as nerdy as it sounds, but you get to have college kid fun again for a short while. Who wouldn't want to relieve some of the best times of their life for a few minutes!

Your children will probably play instruments.

I say "probably," but if you met in band, then chances are that you will start your kid on lessons in early elementary school, get them to start a second (maybe even third) instrument by high school, and then they can woo anyone they want. Ok, I'm kidding, but really there have been several studies done about how learning to play or sing or even listening to music makes you smarter.

We make time, even when we're busy.

A typical week in my life that ends in a game day involves three two-hour rehearsals, a one hour sectional, and then game day can be anywhere from ten to fourteen hours. And that's just a one credit class. There are friends of mine in this band who are aspiring engineers, architects, music performance majors, and pre-vet. Work loads can get up to 18 or more credit hours during the marching season. I don't even know when these people sleep, but they are the most hard-working and well organize people I know. These are the people that are going to have color-coded calendars for all three of their children and every car ride and carpool is going to have snacks. That's the person I want to be with. Heck, that's the person I want to be!

We look dang good in a uniform.

We know how dorky we look, but even the crowd can admit that when you see a band of four-hundred people all wearing the same thing, it's pretty awesome. Maybe even scary depending on the amount of screaming going on.

We understand what real commitment is.

Band kids are not the type to throw in the towel. A lot of us don't even know what the phrase means. Starting a relationship is like starting a new half-time show for us. We are given very little and have to be able to see the big picture. There may be small amounts of kicking and screaming when it gets hard, but we don't tear up our drill charts, throw them in the air, and walk off the field leaving our instruments behind. We take a breather, maybe do some stretches, and come back with a cool head and a mindset to make it better.

We know how to communicate.

If we didn't communicate with each other in band, we wouldn't be a band. It's all about the ensemble and having everything mesh together, meld as one, and be one sound. Translating that to a relationship, that means that we're not going leave you out of the loop. If you don't know something, it will probably make us uncomfortable.

Hard work through it all.

I hope this one is self explanatory. We rehearse in 100 degree heat, snow, rain, and perform in anything that comes our way. A little fight isn't going to discourage us, and neither is someone leaving some dishes out every once in a while. We understand that there may be tiny things that someone does wrong. Things like being too far to the left, or missing a step off, or even being a little late, but that one action isn't a reflection of all the love and care put into the band. Wait, this is about relationships. Little actions are not going to change our whole opinion of you. Someone has to royally screw up for a band kid to change their opinion about you. And if we married you, chances are you're in the clear.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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The Truth About Dating A Girl With An Anxiety Disorder

She knows how annoying she can be, but she just prays you love her regardless of her flaws.


Anxiety: A nervous disorder characterized by a state of excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behavior or panic attacks.

The definition makes it sound really daunting. Truthfully, there is no one way to describe generalized anxiety disorder if you have it. It is hard to live with, hard to cope with and unfortunately, really hard to date with.

Girls with anxiety are different than the average girl when it comes to relationships. That's just an honest statement, no matter how much it hurts me to say it.

We need the constant reminder that you love us, even though we know in our hearts that you do. We panic when you don't answer your phone, in fear that we did something wrong. We care about your feelings when you say that we don't need to worry and we need to be a little calmer. But it's so damn hard.

It isn't easy to love someone who worries about everything 24/7. Half the time, we know we shouldn't be doing the things we do. We know we shouldn't blow up your phone or ask just one more time if you are mad at us. But we can't help it. It says it right in the definition: compulsive behavior due to excessive uneasiness.

Being with a girl with anxiety is probably downright exhausting. It's exhausting for us to have our minds constantly running and worrying. But I promise it's worth it.

We come to you with everything because you are the one person who always knows how to make us feel better. When we are happy, you are the one person we want to be happy with. We all know the constant reassurance, reminders and the same old arguments get old. It gets old to us too.

There was never a time I wanted to have a panic attack because my boyfriend wasn't answering his phone. In my head, I knew where he was because he was usually in the same three places. I knew he wasn't mad at me because I didn't do anything to make him upset. I knew how busy he was with his classes and he was probably studying and I needed to give him space. But the little voice in my head always argued, "What if you did something wrong? What if he's ignoring you because he's angry? What if he's seen your messages and calls, but no longer wants to be with you?" And then I give in. I call, I text, I cry, I panic. Only to feel even worse 10, 30 or 50 minutes later because you answer angrily, telling me what I already knew after I did what I knew I shouldn't have done.

Having anxiety is almost like having a drug addiction. You know all the things that trigger you. You know all the ways to stay away from the bad places in your mind so you don't end up relapsing. But you do anyway and it hurts worse every single time.

Dating a girl with anxiety is as hard as it gets, but she will love you like no other. She is so incredibly thankful for all the things you put up with to be with her. Because she is worried about being loved, she goes the extra mile to always remind you how much you are loved. She always asks if you are ok because she cares about the answer and knows what it's like not to be ok.

The truth is that dating anybody with anxiety is difficult, but it isn't impossible. You get back everything you put in, even though you may not realize it. Trust me, she is sorry for being the annoying, crying, worried, naggy mess and it embarrasses her because she knows better and she wants to be better for you. But please love her. Hold her, understand her, listen to her, calm her, be there for her. In your heart, you know she would turn around and do all the same things for you in a heartbeat.

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