Dear Future Husband: Before you Propose,
First, just know that this day is a day that I have dreamed about all my life. When I was three, I thought about my wedding dress. I thought about getting married in my front yard, and marrying my best friend. Now, many years later, I imagine a completely different dress, getting married in a completely different location, but I still imagine marrying my best friend. When you ask, just know the hesitation isn’t from second guessing. The hesitation is from knowing that I am about to start a new chapter in my life. It is from knowing this is the moment I have dreamed about from years.
Know that when you ask me to marry you, you aren’t just asking me to take your last name. You aren’t just asking me to move in with you, and be your wife. You are asking me to be your team mate. You are asking me to go with you threw everything, sickness and health, rich and poor, good times and in bad. You are asking for me to be a mother for your (our) future kids. You are asking me to love you, when it’s hard to love yourself.
I promise all these things. I promise I will go with you threw everything; good and bad, sickness and health, rich and poor. I promise that I will be your team mate. I promise that I will be your #1 fan. I promise that I will support your dreams. I promise that I will be the best mother and wife that I know how. I promise that before I say yes, I know that you are the man I want on my team.
Marriage is a team. Marriage isn’t just one person compromising every time. Marriage isn’t just the woman cooking supper every night. Marriage isn’t the guy doing all of the handy man work. Marriage is compromise. Marriage is knowing that you won’t always get your way, but they are happy and that is all that matters. Marriage is the man cooking supper too, and cleaning the kitchen just because. Marriage is the woman doing some dirty work, because the man has had a hard day. Marriage is a working process. Marriage isn’t just a piece of paper, nor is it finding someone you can live with. It’s finding someone you can’t live without.
Marriage is a team, and it is the greatest team of all.
