It has been years of me telling you no, but you brush it off like it is nothing and I don’t understand. It’s not okay to either of us, especially not her. Even before you became her husband you have been trying to be with me intimately and it wasn’t okay then and it’s still not okay. You have spent a lot years with this woman and vowed to spend the rest of your life with her so if you wanted to be with other women why would you waste her time and yours. I just want you to put yourself in our shoes.

Every time you hit on me or snapchat me lude messages and/or pictures it upsets to a point that words cannot describe. I have tried numerous times to tell you no and that it’s not right to her, but you won’t listen. It’s a big slap in the face to know that I would just end up being used by you and it kills me to know that you could be doing this very same thing to other girls. Just because you say she doesn’t give you what you want is not a valid reason to cheat on someone you claim to love. Communication is key in any relationship for it to stay strong. If she isn’t giving you what you want talk to her don’t go find someone else. It’s not just highly disrespectful to me and her, it’s also very disrespectful to my significant other that I have told you about trying to get you to stop. I am so very grateful that he trusts me enough that someone like you doesn’t ruin our relationship.

I have also been on the other end of this situation more times than I would like to admit and I have been the woman that got cheated on. It kills any woman to find out that the man she has given her everything to can just go find another woman like what they have means absolutely nothing to him. It destroys a woman’s self-esteem because when she finds out and the anger has finally subsided she’s left with thoughts that haunt her for far too long. Why wasn’t I good enough for him? Why couldn’t he come talk to me? What did I do wrong? Am I not enough? It damages, if not ruins, her ability to trust the next man that comes along and wants to be a part of her life.

I may have a cliché outlook on love, but I also don’t understand how you could do that to someone that you’re supposed to love. When you love someone you don’t want to be with anyone else. You want to do whatever you have to do to make that person the happiest person in the world because that’s all you really want to see. You could spend endless amount of time together and not get tired of them. If anything happens during the day, whether it makes you mad, sad, or happy, they’re the first person you want to tell. I just don’t understand.