"I'm not gonna write you write you a love song 'cause you asked for it, 'cause you need one, you see." -Sara Bareilles
Sara sang it best when she sang this. I know I've already written once about not waiting around for a guy to come and magically make your life 10x better, but after another new experience I think I have better grasp on this subject myself.
You're the only who can truly make you happy.
The sooner you realize this, the better off you'll be. I know having a guy always makes life seem like this amazing adventure with a new person. It's fun having someone to talk to 24/7, always getting and giving compliments, and having hopes that things will last.
Stop being so head-over-heels for every guy that looks your way.
Every girl has been there. We meet a cute guy and hope he has interest in us. And when we find out he does? Well then we start hoping for long-term relationships and happily ever after's. Why? Because they make us happy and have us on cloud 9.
Don't let a guy define you and your happiness.
I get it. It's hard to feel down when what seems like an amazing guy is giving you so much good attention. But how long is this good attention going to last?
I feel like young girls in our generation are so obsessed with the idea of love that we will accept anything, even if it's not the love and respect we deserve. Why do we do this? Because we have a lack of love and respect for ourselves. We feel that we need someone else to come into our lives, pick up the pieces for us, and tell us how much value we really have. I personally believe this is so overrated.
Go be you before inviting someone else into the picture.
Go to school, get your diploma/degree, have fun with your friends, pack up and move to your favorite city, go make a life of your own. So many things become limited when you start a relationship with someone. So don't limit your amazing opportunities for the cute guy you've known a whole two months.
Nothing good comes out of a looked-for love.
Trust me on this one. This is where toxic relationships come in. You'll never find the right one. The best relationships start unexpectedly, so don't try to force anything with anyone. It'll only cause you to be more unhappy and heartbroken than before. Love yourself enough to not look.
God has a time and place for everything.
It may not feel like it, but I promise your love life isn't doomed and you're not going to be single forever. The big man upstairs created someone specifically for you and he's out there going through all the same things you are. So until you meet him, stop focusing so much on guys and more on yourself. Enjoy the crazy things life has to offer and let everything fall in place. It'll all be worth it in the end.
