Loving someone who doesn’t love you back is honestly the best way to destroy yourself. I’ve been in love before. It’s beautiful. If you are anything like me, you love with every fiber of your being. You love deeply, and if you give someone your heart it’s a big deal. Giving someone your heart is a risk. There are many things that can go wrong, trust can be broken, people can go different ways in their lives, or they can simply just decide that they just don’t love you anymore…
When someone decides that they don’t love you anymore something inside you shatters. You start questioning your whole relationship that you had with that person. “Did they ever really love me?” “Was it all just fake?” “Is there something wrong with me?” “Did I drive them away?” but let me tell you something nothing is wrong with you. People change. Sometimes they just decide that they just don’t want to share their lives with certain people anymore, and that sucks, it truly does.
When someone decides that they just don’t love you anymore, it hurts you in a way that is unexplainable. But you need to use that pain that they have caused you to build a fire in your soul and make a life for you. You need to go after your dreams and as you slowly begin to heal and find yourself, then God will provide someone for you.
When that person walks out of your life, it doesn’t mean that your love for them goes with them. You have to fight daily to not think about them, to not call them, to not drive by their house. I personally think it’s one of the hardest fights you will face. But through this fight, you will find yourself. Through the darkness, you will be forced to find your own way out, on your own, and it will transform you into a person that you won’t recognize. You have the choice on who this person becomes, you will either love this unrecognizable person or you will hate who you become.
You have a choice on who you become in the end, and you have to live with the person that you chose for the rest of your life. You can go through this battle with the attitude that God hates you, and that he put you through all of this because he enjoys watching you fail, or you can decide to be happy and know that God would never give you something you can’t handle. He is just preparing you for your future. He wants you to be ready. He wants you to have someone who will love you at all times, who would never leave you. Who is, though you can’t imagine it at this time, so much better than the person that doesn’t love you back.
