Loving yourself when others are not showing love to you can become difficult especially in the middle of business, stress, and plain ole life. It is so unfortunate that we can catch ourselves reflecting and viewing ourselves the way others might see us or how we interpret relationships!
Self-love is so important and it is crucial when putting love back into the world. In order for us to fully love others we have to learn to love ourselves!
Most of us have self-love and we consider ourselves happy and positive people but when we experience relationship or friendship struggles that we value in life, we suddenly melt into a puddle. With this type of thinking we eventually catch ourselves only valuing and loving ourselves when our loved ones around us are valuing us! It is a hard habit to break to only feel loved and experience worthiness when people fit our love languages or express their validation in us. I personally receive love through words of affirmation and quality time. It is important to not get stuck on our love languages and only receive love when it fits with us conveniently and easily. It is so wrong for us to be expectant of others to give us constant validation and self worth!
Reminiscing on how you could of done things differently, how you could of made someone else happier, how you could of prevented being misunderstood, is something you're going to consider but it should not determine your worthiness or love for yourself!
It is crucial for you to love yourself even if you are not receiving it from your loved ones or friends. You will come across mean people in life who aren't loving you well or aren't happy with you, that should not make you love yourself any less. We subconsciously are codependent in most of our relationships and friendships and expect people to make us happy or feel validated.
Having a sensitive spirit is such a gift but using wisdom and knowledge is crucial when showing love to yourself! It is so important to love yourself even when relationships feel like they aren't loving you back.
Scripture tells us in Psalm 139: 13-15 “For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth”. Luke 12: 6-7 says “Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows”. 1 Samuel 16: 7 says “But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart”. Psalm 139:13-14 “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well".
You are worthy. You are loved. You are valuable. You are enough.
